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“Being late isn’t about bad time management, it’s about not developing a proper sense of time as a kid.” Gabor Maté explained this to Hasan Minhaj during their conversation. He walked through the classic ADHD signs (trouble focusing, losing things, disorganization) and tied Hasan’s chronic lateness directly to early... stress in his environment, especially as a highly sensitive child. Maté emphasized that ADHD isn’t primarily genetic — it’s often a response to stress during key developmental periods. It was fascinating watching Maté connect the dots so quickly and compassionately, turning a personal frustration into something understandable instead of shameful. Reframing ADHD and behaviors like chronic lateness as adaptive responses rather than character flaws can reduce self-blame and open the door to real healing. What’s something you’ve always struggled with that you’re starting to see differently now?show more

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Hasan Minhaj asks Gabor Maté: "Why am I always late?" Maté diagnoses on the spot: ADHD—specifically a lack of time maturity. At 5 minutes to 8, your brain still feels like you have "eternity." Time sense didn't fully develop early because, for highly sensitive kids, parental stress (even prenatal) interferes with brain circuits. It's not inherited disease—it's a protective "tune out" response to overwhelm that wired in young. 96-sec clip from Hasan's podcast. Mind-blowing reframing of chronic lateness + disorganization as survival adaptation. ADHD folks (or those who relate): Does the "time blindness from early stress" explanation hit home? Ever noticed how sensitivity + childhood environment shaped your focus/time sense? Share below—no judgment, just real talk.

Hasan Minhaj asks Gabor Maté: "Why am I always late?" Maté diagnoses on the spot: ADHD—specifically a lack of time maturity. At 5 minutes to 8, your brain still feels like you have "eternity." Time sense didn't fully develop early because, for highly sensitive kids, parental stress (even prenatal) interferes with brain circuits. It's not inherited disease—it's a protective "tune out" response to overwhelm that wired in young. 96-sec clip from Hasan's podcast. Mind-blowing reframing of chronic lateness + disorganization as survival adaptation. ADHD folks (or those who relate): Does the "time blindness from early stress" explanation hit home? Ever noticed how sensitivity + childhood environment shaped your focus/time sense? Share below—no judgment, just real talk.

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Gabor Maté flipped the entire ADHD conversation on Joe Rogan: He says ADHD is real, but it’s not a genetic disease like we’ve been told. It’s a coping mechanism. When a young child experiences stress (especially from parents) and can’t fight or escape, their developing brain learns to tune out. That pattern gets wired in. Years later we call it a “disorder” and reach for pills. Maté’s take: The brain develops in relationship. Stressed, unavailable parents → stressed, distracted kids. Fix the environment and family dynamics, and the symptoms often improve dramatically. We’ve spent decades treating ADHD as purely biological when the environment and early relationships might be playing a much bigger role than most doctors admit. This one really made me think. I’ve seen kids (and adults) labeled with ADHD whose home life was chaotic. The idea that it could be a survival adaptation rather than just “broken wiring” feels like it explains a lot. Do you see ADHD more as a genetic brain disease, a coping mechanism from early stress, or somewhere in between?

Gabor Maté flipped the entire ADHD conversation on Joe Rogan: He says ADHD is real, but it’s not a genetic disease like we’ve been told. It’s a coping mechanism. When a young child experiences stress (especially from parents) and can’t fight or escape, their developing brain learns to tune out. That pattern gets wired in. Years later we call it a “disorder” and reach for pills. Maté’s take: The brain develops in relationship. Stressed, unavailable parents → stressed, distracted kids. Fix the environment and family dynamics, and the symptoms often improve dramatically. We’ve spent decades treating ADHD as purely biological when the environment and early relationships might be playing a much bigger role than most doctors admit. This one really made me think. I’ve seen kids (and adults) labeled with ADHD whose home life was chaotic. The idea that it could be a survival adaptation rather than just “broken wiring” feels like it explains a lot. Do you see ADHD more as a genetic brain disease, a coping mechanism from early stress, or somewhere in between?

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Gabor Maté on ADHD in kids: "It's not a disorder—it's a coping mechanism for a sensitive child in a stressed family." In this powerful clip, Maté reframes ADHD as the brain's way of protecting itself: - Sensitive, empathetic children absorb parental/family stress. - They "go absent-minded" to self-protect (not defiance or laziness). - Often highly talented, warm-hearted, deeply feeling. - They crave emotional security above all—understanding, not just behavior fixes or meds. "Once you realize a kid is like that... make them feel emotionally safe." A compassionate shift from "fix the child" to "heal the environment." Parents/teachers: Does this resonate with what you've seen in kids (or even yourself growing up)? What helped create real emotional safety? Share your thoughts/experiences respectfully below.

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Dr. Gabor Maté shares a heartbreaking yet hopeful truth with Joe Rogan: ADHD often isn’t a broken brain or genetic curse—it’s the tender survival strategy of a tiny infant who absorbed too much parental pain and stress, with nowhere to run or fight back. All a baby can do is tune out. That disconnection gets etched into developing circuits... and echoes through a lifetime of feeling scattered, overwhelmed, or “not enough.” But here’s the healing part: because it’s rooted in early emotional wounds, it can soften and shift through genuine connection, compassion, and attunement—even years later. In a world where childhood stress feels more common than ever, this perspective touches something deep. It reminds us how profoundly we affect the little ones around us—and how much grace we all deserve.

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Day care is causing the ADHD epidemic. That’s the provocative take from psychotherapist Erica Komisar on John Anderson’s podcast. She argues that putting very young babies into long hours of daycare creates chronic stress that flips the brain’s stress switch (the amygdala) on way too early. It goes into hypervigilant mode, eventually burns out, and leaves kids in a constant low-level fight-or-flight state, which gets labeled as ADHD. She says there’s no strong genetic cause for ADHD. It’s largely a response to the environment we’re putting kids in. This one really made me pause. We’re wiring tiny brains for survival mode before they’ve even had a chance to develop properly. If much of the ADHD explosion is coming from early chronic stress and separation, then rethinking daycare norms and early childcare could dramatically improve kids’ mental health long-term. What’s your experience or observation, do you think modern daycare schedules are contributing to rising ADHD rates?

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420,826 次观看 • 2 年前

Mel Robbins discovered she had ADHD at 47 — and she’s part of a whole “lost generation” of women. On Chris Williamson’s Modern Wisdom podcast, she explained how girls with ADHD show up completely differently than boys. While boys tend to be fidgety, disruptive, and get labeled as “behavior problems,” girls often become quiet, self-critical, anxious, and withdrawn. Because of that, an entire generation was misdiagnosed with anxiety instead of ADHD or dyslexia. Research in the 1970s focused almost entirely on boys, so millions of women spent decades treating the wrong thing. This one really clicked for me. So many smart, capable women carry around this quiet exhaustion and self-doubt for years, thinking it’s just “anxiety” or a personal flaw, when their brains were actually wired differently the whole time. The right diagnosis can be life-changing — it shifts you from years of fighting yourself to finally understanding and working with how your mind actually operates. Women (or anyone who knows one): were you ever diagnosed with anxiety as a teen or young adult, only to later find out it was ADHD or dyslexia? What changed once you knew?

Mel Robbins discovered she had ADHD at 47 — and she’s part of a whole “lost generation” of women. On Chris Williamson’s Modern Wisdom podcast, she explained how girls with ADHD show up completely differently than boys. While boys tend to be fidgety, disruptive, and get labeled as “behavior problems,” girls often become quiet, self-critical, anxious, and withdrawn. Because of that, an entire generation was misdiagnosed with anxiety instead of ADHD or dyslexia. Research in the 1970s focused almost entirely on boys, so millions of women spent decades treating the wrong thing. This one really clicked for me. So many smart, capable women carry around this quiet exhaustion and self-doubt for years, thinking it’s just “anxiety” or a personal flaw, when their brains were actually wired differently the whole time. The right diagnosis can be life-changing — it shifts you from years of fighting yourself to finally understanding and working with how your mind actually operates. Women (or anyone who knows one): were you ever diagnosed with anxiety as a teen or young adult, only to later find out it was ADHD or dyslexia? What changed once you knew?

Camus

68,307 次观看 • 2 个月前

The latest episode of my podcast “Menace To Sobriety” is a real heavy one, its not for the fait hearted. My guest Shane opens up about years of sniff addiction, repeated relapses, and the physical and mental consequences that followed, from losing control, damaging his health, and struggling with shame, to the moment he genuinely believed he was watching himself die. I really think as difficult as this one is to watch it will really hit people struggling to find motivation to change hard. This isn’t a glamorised story. It’s a real, uncomfortable look at how addiction creeps in, how denial keeps you trapped, and how quickly things can spiral when you think you’re “still in control”. If you’re still in the mix, this episode might be the wake-up call you didn’t know you needed. This podcast isn’t just for people on the journey, thinking about starting it, or supporting someone who is, its for anyone looking to find answers about negative behaviour what ever it may be. Its also a very interesting deep and healing conversation. See below.

The latest episode of my podcast “Menace To Sobriety” is a real heavy one, its not for the fait hearted. My guest Shane opens up about years of sniff addiction, repeated relapses, and the physical and mental consequences that followed, from losing control, damaging his health, and struggling with shame, to the moment he genuinely believed he was watching himself die. I really think as difficult as this one is to watch it will really hit people struggling to find motivation to change hard. This isn’t a glamorised story. It’s a real, uncomfortable look at how addiction creeps in, how denial keeps you trapped, and how quickly things can spiral when you think you’re “still in control”. If you’re still in the mix, this episode might be the wake-up call you didn’t know you needed. This podcast isn’t just for people on the journey, thinking about starting it, or supporting someone who is, its for anyone looking to find answers about negative behaviour what ever it may be. Its also a very interesting deep and healing conversation. See below.

Daniel O’Reilly

79,243 次观看 • 5 个月前

ADHD isn’t an “attention deficit.” It’s a profound developmental disorder of self-regulation. Dr. Russell Barkley (one of the world’s leading ADHD researchers) explains why the name “ADHD” has done massive damage: - It trivializes a condition as serious as autism, schizophrenia, or bipolar disorder. - It makes people think “just drink coffee and focus” — when the real issue is far deeper. The core problem isn’t just distractibility. It’s three interlocking executive deficits: 1. Persistence toward the future — inability to stay motivated by delayed rewards 2. Resistance to distractions — constant derailment by immediate temptations 3. Working memory — struggling to hold goals, plans, and consequences in mind Together, these create a devastating impairment in self-regulation — the ability to consciously inhibit impulses, direct actions toward yourself (self-talk, self-monitoring), and align behavior with long-term welfare. Barkley: “This is not an attention problem. This is a disorder of self-regulation… as serious as manic depression, and in its own way, as autism.” Parents often hear “he’s just lazy” or “she needs to try harder.” The truth is far more compassionate and urgent: The child’s brain is developmentally behind in the very mechanisms that allow other kids to stop, think, plan, and protect their future selves. If we renamed it Self-Regulatory Developmental Disorder (SRDD), the conversation would change overnight. How many adults do you know who still struggle with exactly these same three deficits — and were never properly understood as kids?

ADHD isn’t an “attention deficit.” It’s a profound developmental disorder of self-regulation. Dr. Russell Barkley (one of the world’s leading ADHD researchers) explains why the name “ADHD” has done massive damage: - It trivializes a condition as serious as autism, schizophrenia, or bipolar disorder. - It makes people think “just drink coffee and focus” — when the real issue is far deeper. The core problem isn’t just distractibility. It’s three interlocking executive deficits: 1. Persistence toward the future — inability to stay motivated by delayed rewards 2. Resistance to distractions — constant derailment by immediate temptations 3. Working memory — struggling to hold goals, plans, and consequences in mind Together, these create a devastating impairment in self-regulation — the ability to consciously inhibit impulses, direct actions toward yourself (self-talk, self-monitoring), and align behavior with long-term welfare. Barkley: “This is not an attention problem. This is a disorder of self-regulation… as serious as manic depression, and in its own way, as autism.” Parents often hear “he’s just lazy” or “she needs to try harder.” The truth is far more compassionate and urgent: The child’s brain is developmentally behind in the very mechanisms that allow other kids to stop, think, plan, and protect their future selves. If we renamed it Self-Regulatory Developmental Disorder (SRDD), the conversation would change overnight. How many adults do you know who still struggle with exactly these same three deficits — and were never properly understood as kids?

Camus

464,430 次观看 • 4 个月前

He’s WALKING! He’s WALKING! Check out this joyful family celebration as our hero takes his first steps. Across dozens of developmental milestones we seem to hold baby’s first steps in a place of special reverence - which is why it’s important to remember that (like most things) walking doesn’t happen on a fixed timeline. As a general rule of thumb children take their first steps somewhere around a year of age… for some children this can be as early as 8-9 months and for others it may be as late as 16-18 months. And that’s just fine. Avoid the temptation (and stress) of comparing your baby’s progress here against that of siblings or friends. As always, speak to your pediatrician if you have specific developmental concerns. You’re right to be vigilant… but also wise to remember that there is a broad “range of normal” when it comes to most things. Child development is not a race… it’s a process. Let this family be a model and enjoy every minute! This mobile little guy was shared to IG by the.newparents.

He’s WALKING! He’s WALKING! Check out this joyful family celebration as our hero takes his first steps. Across dozens of developmental milestones we seem to hold baby’s first steps in a place of special reverence - which is why it’s important to remember that (like most things) walking doesn’t happen on a fixed timeline. As a general rule of thumb children take their first steps somewhere around a year of age… for some children this can be as early as 8-9 months and for others it may be as late as 16-18 months. And that’s just fine. Avoid the temptation (and stress) of comparing your baby’s progress here against that of siblings or friends. As always, speak to your pediatrician if you have specific developmental concerns. You’re right to be vigilant… but also wise to remember that there is a broad “range of normal” when it comes to most things. Child development is not a race… it’s a process. Let this family be a model and enjoy every minute! This mobile little guy was shared to IG by the.newparents.

Dan Wuori

167,884 次观看 • 2 年前

“ADHD is not a disorder of not knowing what to do. It’s a disorder of not doing what you already know.” Dr. Russell Barkley just delivered one of the clearest explanations of ADHD I’ve ever heard. He says the brain can be split in two: the back part acquires knowledge, the front part (the executive system) uses it. ADHD acts like a meat cleaver that severs the two. You already have the skills and information other people your age have. You just can’t apply them when it counts. That’s why life becomes an endless series of last-minute crises. You’re time-blind — you can only deal with what’s right in front of you. The further away a goal or deadline is, the less real it feels. The solution isn’t teaching more skills. It’s changing the environment at the exact point where the problem occurs — the “point of performance.” It’s a game-changing way to understand why traditional approaches often fail.

“ADHD is not a disorder of not knowing what to do. It’s a disorder of not doing what you already know.” Dr. Russell Barkley just delivered one of the clearest explanations of ADHD I’ve ever heard. He says the brain can be split in two: the back part acquires knowledge, the front part (the executive system) uses it. ADHD acts like a meat cleaver that severs the two. You already have the skills and information other people your age have. You just can’t apply them when it counts. That’s why life becomes an endless series of last-minute crises. You’re time-blind — you can only deal with what’s right in front of you. The further away a goal or deadline is, the less real it feels. The solution isn’t teaching more skills. It’s changing the environment at the exact point where the problem occurs — the “point of performance.” It’s a game-changing way to understand why traditional approaches often fail.

Camus

1,554,339 次观看 • 3 个月前