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Harvard professor Arthur C. Brooks drops a raw, evolutionary truth bomb on marriage: Women crave adoration ("Baby, you're everything—I'd take a bullet for you, you're insane-level beautiful & I'd protect you forever"). Men crave admiration ("That's the biggest gazelle I've ever seen you drag in—you're so strong & capable")....

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Nikola Jokic shares the journey it takes to become a champion. "If you wanna be successful, you need a couple years. You need to be bad, then you need to be good, and then when you're good, you need to fail. And then when you fail, you gonna figure it out." That's the process. Bad → Good → Fail → Figure it out. There are no shortcuts. "Experience is not what happens to you. It's what you're gonna do with what happened to you." Because the setbacks don't define you. Your response does. "There is a process that you need to go through. There are steps that you need to fill. There is no shortcuts. It's a journey." "And I'm glad that I'm part of this journey." The path to greatness isn't clean. It's messy, painful, and full of failures. But that is the way. Trust the journey. (🎥 NBA)

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Camus

530,081 görüntüleme • 6 ay önce

Jordan Peterson: "If you're competent and silent you will be ignored." "You might think well people should reward you because you're competent. And yes of course they should. But if you're competent and silent then you're just part of the background that's keeping everything functioning" On why you cannot negotiate from a position of weakness: "If you want to push your career forward you have to push it forward. You have to be competent and you have to be strategic" "To be strategic when you negotiate for a new position or a new salary you have to be able to say if you don't give me what I want then something you don't like will happen to you" "It's not a physical threat. It's that you have an option" "You have your CV in order. You're educated and competent and desirable to people outside of your immediate job. You're willing to instantly put yourself on the job market" "So that when you go talk to the person you're negotiating with you're credible" On the one thing most people completely miss about negotiation: "It's very seldom that you're talking to the person who's at the top of the pecking order. What you need to do is tell them a story that they can tell to their boss to make you not a problem" "A good story is look we really need this person because they're hyper competent and they have a better offer" "If you go in there with no power you're going to lose. Obviously" He concludes with the one thing every competent person needs to hear: "The first thing you need to know if you're going to negotiate is that you have to be able to say no. And what no means is that you're not going to do it"
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Jordan Peterson: "If you're competent and silent you will be ignored." "You might think well people should reward you because you're competent. And yes of course they should. But if you're competent and silent then you're just part of the background that's keeping everything functioning" On why you cannot negotiate from a position of weakness: "If you want to push your career forward you have to push it forward. You have to be competent and you have to be strategic" "To be strategic when you negotiate for a new position or a new salary you have to be able to say if you don't give me what I want then something you don't like will happen to you" "It's not a physical threat. It's that you have an option" "You have your CV in order. You're educated and competent and desirable to people outside of your immediate job. You're willing to instantly put yourself on the job market" "So that when you go talk to the person you're negotiating with you're credible" On the one thing most people completely miss about negotiation: "It's very seldom that you're talking to the person who's at the top of the pecking order. What you need to do is tell them a story that they can tell to their boss to make you not a problem" "A good story is look we really need this person because they're hyper competent and they have a better offer" "If you go in there with no power you're going to lose. Obviously" He concludes with the one thing every competent person needs to hear: "The first thing you need to know if you're going to negotiate is that you have to be able to say no. And what no means is that you're not going to do it"

Brad

35,334 görüntüleme • 2 ay önce

Rasmr explains why being rich young is a million times out of a million worth it and you need to stop thinking about it "I had to go against all the advice, all the conventional wisdom, I had to go against the grain. I was doing crypto meme coin videos and trading where I had friends that were doing corporate jobs and ascending in the corporate ranking. And if you're in chat and you're in that same position I was a couple years ago, thinking is it actually worth it, I just want you to stop talking and stop thinking because the answer a million times out of a million is fucking yes. It's way worth it, it's actually lit, it's way sicker than you could think." "The younger you are, the more risk you'll be able to tolerate and the more risk you'll be able to actually justify to your parents and those around you. Whatever risk you are facing, you need to have 10x bigger balls and take bigger risks than you could even imagine. I grinded trading for years before I ever got good. Some guys like Cupsey or Insentos come into trading and they're fucking good right away. But once you get good, it's like you're floating bro. You're just fucking floating. So for everybody watching, if you're doing this shit, just keep doing it until you get good. It's worth it."
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Rasmr explains why being rich young is a million times out of a million worth it and you need to stop thinking about it "I had to go against all the advice, all the conventional wisdom, I had to go against the grain. I was doing crypto meme coin videos and trading where I had friends that were doing corporate jobs and ascending in the corporate ranking. And if you're in chat and you're in that same position I was a couple years ago, thinking is it actually worth it, I just want you to stop talking and stop thinking because the answer a million times out of a million is fucking yes. It's way worth it, it's actually lit, it's way sicker than you could think." "The younger you are, the more risk you'll be able to tolerate and the more risk you'll be able to actually justify to your parents and those around you. Whatever risk you are facing, you need to have 10x bigger balls and take bigger risks than you could even imagine. I grinded trading for years before I ever got good. Some guys like Cupsey or Insentos come into trading and they're fucking good right away. But once you get good, it's like you're floating bro. You're just fucking floating. So for everybody watching, if you're doing this shit, just keep doing it until you get good. It's worth it."

Kai

19,273 görüntüleme • 10 gün önce

This scene from Louis CK's show captures something about love I haven't seen anywhere else: The only thing sadder than feeling pain in the midst of loss is not feeling anything at all, because a lack of emotion would mean you didn't have something worth cherishing in the first place. This particular exchange is about breakups but it applies to any form of loss: moving cities, losing a friend, changing jobs, etc. Here's the transcript: Old Man: So you took a chance on being happy, even though you knew that later on you would be sad. Louis: Yeah. Old Man: And now... you're sad. Louis: Yeah. Old Man: So... what's the problem? Louis: I'm too sad.... Look, I liked the feeling of being in love with her. I liked it. But now she's gone and I miss her and it sucks. And I didn't think it was going to be this bad, and I feel like, why even be happy if it's just going to lead to this, you know? It wasn't worth it. Old Man: You know, misery is wasted on the miserable. Louis: What? Old Man: You know, I'm not entirely sure what your name is, but you are a classic idiot. You think spending time with her, kissing her, having fun with her, you think that's what it was all about? That was love? Louis: Yeah. Old Man: THIS is love. Missing her, because she's gone. Wanting to die.... You're so lucky. You're like a walking poem. Would you rather be some kind of a fantasy? Some kind of a Disney ride? Is that what you want? Don't you see? This is the good part. This is what you've been digging for all this time. Now you finally have it in your hand, this sweet nugget of love, sweet, sad love, and you want to throw it away. You've got it all wrong. Louis: I thought this was the bad part. Old Man: No! The bad part is when you forget her, when you don't care about her, when you don't care about anything. The bad part is coming, so enjoy the heartbreak while you can, for God's sakes.
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This scene from Louis CK's show captures something about love I haven't seen anywhere else: The only thing sadder than feeling pain in the midst of loss is not feeling anything at all, because a lack of emotion would mean you didn't have something worth cherishing in the first place. This particular exchange is about breakups but it applies to any form of loss: moving cities, losing a friend, changing jobs, etc. Here's the transcript: Old Man: So you took a chance on being happy, even though you knew that later on you would be sad. Louis: Yeah. Old Man: And now... you're sad. Louis: Yeah. Old Man: So... what's the problem? Louis: I'm too sad.... Look, I liked the feeling of being in love with her. I liked it. But now she's gone and I miss her and it sucks. And I didn't think it was going to be this bad, and I feel like, why even be happy if it's just going to lead to this, you know? It wasn't worth it. Old Man: You know, misery is wasted on the miserable. Louis: What? Old Man: You know, I'm not entirely sure what your name is, but you are a classic idiot. You think spending time with her, kissing her, having fun with her, you think that's what it was all about? That was love? Louis: Yeah. Old Man: THIS is love. Missing her, because she's gone. Wanting to die.... You're so lucky. You're like a walking poem. Would you rather be some kind of a fantasy? Some kind of a Disney ride? Is that what you want? Don't you see? This is the good part. This is what you've been digging for all this time. Now you finally have it in your hand, this sweet nugget of love, sweet, sad love, and you want to throw it away. You've got it all wrong. Louis: I thought this was the bad part. Old Man: No! The bad part is when you forget her, when you don't care about her, when you don't care about anything. The bad part is coming, so enjoy the heartbreak while you can, for God's sakes.

David Perell

73,457 görüntüleme • 1 yıl önce