He really explained how to do hard things as an ADHD person

Am I the only one who missed the part where he “really” explains how to do hard things as an ADHD person?

This is exactly why goals are bullshit and systems (habits) are everything. Nothing happens immediately if I brush my teeth or exercise or save money or eat vegetables, but if I make that part of an automated system many good things (formerly known as goals) happen over time.

"consequences", as if the kid needs to be punished... let's put it another way: video games provide constant FEEDBACK

It’s not a failure, it’s an upgrade. It’s an innate wiring that provides hyper focus for the things that are of intrinsic value to the ADHD person, leaving no space for working on the frivolities of others that have no meaning or purpose, other than performance or conformity.

It's interesting that with ADHD, people need rules, guidelines, and regulations to motivate them to complete tasks.

Bro explained the problem. What about solutions?

I was the quintessential ADD kid growing up in the late 70s and through the 80s (before ADHD came vogue in the 90’s). The school system failed to captivate my attention through grade- and middle-school. Bored out of my gourd, the school district couldn’t keep me interested so they put me into special education classes for kids with behavioral problems. They medicated me with Ritalin and turned me into an android. It wasn’t until high school where I began to get enough challenge in interesting subjects such as math and science. I ultimately Graduated in the top 1% of my HS class and went in to earn bachelors & masters degrees in engineering. Now I work on servicing nuclear power plants worldwide. The point is: school is too boring for many bright young students who suffer with an inability to tolerate boredom. Give us a challenge that matters, and we will go smash it.

Kids with ADHD often struggle to learn in the same way as neurotypical peers because modern school structures feel painfully dull in our digital age, especially when that type of digital learning is painfully uninspiring. Materials arrive mostly through screens or endless reading packets with rigid rules, offering almost no hands on, tactile interaction. This kills engagement fast for brains wired to crave novelty and stimulation. When content stays passive and rule heavy instead of dynamic and exploratory, attention drifts, frustration builds, and real learning stalls. The system itself needs rethinking to spark genuine interest rather than forcing compliance through boredom. This is the main reason I didn't pursue Primary Ed teaching because i'd have been bored to death. (Having ADHD) I'd urge parents who have kids with ADHD to consider alternative schools that support the more creative minded, such as Montessori and fix the core issues of disengagement. Montessori environments shine here with their emphasis on self paced learning, freedom of movement, concrete hands on materials, and child led activities that align well with how ADHD brains thrive on choice, sensory input, and real world exploration.

nigga just diagnosed me with no cure. lol. just dropped the mic

Gaming life with instant feedback systems is a hack that has merit.

This explains why previous generations that have ADHD seemingly have a higher success rate. Consequences. Also another case for discipline & rules in childhood.

right up until the end when he calls it an executive failure. i think it’s a feature. i think understanding it holds the key to designing tasks and work properly to motivate people intrinsically based on the real world they influence.

Here is a small doc showing how I am doing with my ADHD and I have made substantial improvements. My book on ADHD is interesting and based on what experiments I ran mapping with First Principles and Science.

Actually it’s the easy things I struggle with.

hes also wrong

No he didn’t

this guy is legit for sure, but ADHD is not something you can be "talked out of", nor any "explanation" can help you overcome its downsides. it's a total lack of self-control and will

So what he advocates is rigorous punishment, then. Nonstop, unending, overbearing punishment for kids who are having trouble learning things. But of course it is phrased not as punishment but “consequences”… leaving the “consequences” as a vague word bereft of definition

Unfortunately, he is off base. It's not a lack of self-motivation. It's having an interest-based nervous system.

@grok could you give me link to the full video of this clip?

this is literally my life. hope to being diagnosed asap and fix this situation

I've been slowly retraining myself to increase self motivation as below. I appreciate (even minor) accomplishments that do not have immediate benefits. Like, reorganizing a section of tools, for example, stop and appreciate a job well done, repeatedly, as happens. Later, when a tool is found quickly instead of taking forever to find, I again, mentally note that benefit. This takes an eternity, but does painstakingly create an increase in self motivation over time.

Bullshit , fuck this bald low T regressive Neanderthal. Take a bunch or mushrooms, rewire your brain, thas the answer.

Need to find the rest of this video.

He's right. He didn't have answers but he's right. Long drawn out processes with no stimulating reward is very mentally taxing for me. Yeh. I do it. Obviously. Shit needs doing. But I don't do a lot of things need doing until they NEED doing then and there.

For a little bit of clarification, I can get up and smell the coffee and do the thing for like a day or two or three days but eventually, if I don’t, just forget, that’s what I’m doing. I’m gonna be so melted down that I just literally can’t even think straight anymore

My brother remembering to stop for gas is hard. We were born in hard.

sound just like me! which is why I create deadlines with real consequences for myself and my teams. I think non-ADHD people kinda hate it, but it's very motivating!

Explains the F that is I

@grok - is this statement true? If yes then can you provide more context on what he says.

ADHD is a gift from god. Smarter stronger and faster than normies.

@grok So does this mean an ADHD person could theoretically found the most dynamic company in the world on very little pay, but struggle to be a pencil pusher occupying a corner glass office as a mid-level management executive ? Think critically please.

bro thats not ADHD thats everyone

Does anyone know who this speaker is?