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This is the normal evolution of human attraction over a lifespan. Most men do not spend their entire lives looking at women through the adolescent lens of “hot, want sex, must act.” Physical beauty may initiate attention, no one argues against that, but mature attraction becomes increasingly selective, contextual, and integrated with compatibility and trust. The human brain evolved far beyond a simple stimulus response mating system. Men are capable of discernment, pair bonding, devotion, and long term preference formation. A woman’s appearance does not exist in isolation from her character, intelligence, temperament, behavior, or the meaning she holds in his life. In an emotionally developed man, desire becomes organized around the whole person rather than endlessly triggered by every attractive female body in his visual field. A man who remains permanently governed by novelty and immediate visual appetite is not displaying some profound truth about male nature. He is displaying weak inhibition, poor psychological development, or a deliberate refusal to evolve beyond its most primitive layer. I’d seriously caution anyone against listening to men who claim men continue behaving like lustful bots after 25ish. Most psychologically healthy men mature out of chimp mating behaviors because engaging that way requires them to keep choosing the chaos and immaturity, long after they have enough life experience to know better.

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This is actually a pretty good description of (some) things that will get girls chasing you. (While you generally don’t want to listen to female dating advice for men, a woman simply DESCRIBING what men have done with her that worked can be very informative.) In this case, the guy was using: ✅ Confident, self-possessed body language. She doesn’t say it, but I guarantee you he had great posture, moved slowly and deliberately but smoothly, and took up space. Doubtless had excellent eye contact. ✅ At some point (ONCE he had her INVESTED enough) he asked her if she thought he was ‘hot’. This was deep in the second date, probably after some good bonding or connection so she doesn’t want to burst the bubble by saying something other than ‘yes’. What this did was trigger a psychological concept called COMMITMENT-CONSISTENCY where, once someone has verbally agreed to something, that person then feels compelled to act in-line with it, and even reorients his or her views to match what was said. (You can read about this in Robert Cialdini’s book “Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion”, where he has a ton more studies + examples.) ✅ Once he had her out the third time, he could tell she wasn’t into him enough yet, but was invested enough to have come out multiple times, so he just hung back and gave her space to chase. What happens when she chases? Well, that is simple enough: she starts to like you more (then more!). (Also, you might think his dogged follow up of her was ‘chasing’, especially if you are the type who only texts a girl once or twice then quits if she isn’t all about it… however: there is a right way and a wrong way to follow up doggedly. The fact that this guy got another date and she started chasing him tells you he did it the right way. The right way is ‘persistence’, rather than ‘pursuit’.) A lot of guys now don’t use (or know) game at all… they’re just totally winging it on “does she instantly feel me or not?” You may not believe it until you try it for yourself, but yeah, there is a reason men have been doing this stuff with women since Ovid’s time and before… probably since long before recorded history. If you want her to CHASE, you need to get her invested enough to be willing to — then, after that, you must create the SPACE for her to chase you in!

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My little brother got punched in the face at 12. So, I took him to the gym. Now he deadlifts 455lbs and wins wrestling tournaments. Here are 13 must-dos if you want to help a young man gain confidence: 𝟏. 𝐄𝐱𝐩𝐨𝐬𝐞 𝐡𝐢𝐦 𝐭𝐨 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐭𝐫𝐨𝐥𝐥𝐞𝐝 𝐚𝐝𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐢𝐭𝐲. I work out with my little brother. I do ice baths with my little brother. These activities teach him to overcome adversity in a controlled fashion. Expose young men to controlled adversity so they can handle the challenges of life. 𝟐. 𝐁𝐮𝐢𝐥𝐝 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐟𝐢𝐝𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞 𝐢𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟. Could you give a homeless person a $100 bill if you didn’t have $100 yourself? You can’t give something you don’t have. Schedule time to build your own confidence with things like working out, ice baths, or BJJ. Fill your cup first so you may pour it out into others. 𝟑. 𝐒𝐭𝐨𝐩 𝐥𝐞𝐭𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐡𝐢𝐦 𝐰𝐢𝐧. My little brother competes with me in everything. But, his confidence comes from the wins in his personal life and his competitiveness comes from the L’s to the man he looks up to. (P.S. This doesn’t mean he won’t beat you. My little brother has taken me down in BJJ and landed punches in Muay Thai. He’s surpassed me in guitar. He has beaten me, but I don’t go easy on him.) 𝟒. 𝐒𝐭𝐨𝐩 𝐭𝐚𝐥𝐤𝐢𝐧𝐠. 𝐒𝐭𝐚𝐫𝐭 𝐝𝐨𝐢𝐧𝐠. At first, my little brother rejected what he was told but followed the example he would see. Now, he values my every word. Become confident, disciplined, and strong so that your word holds weight. 𝟓. 𝐁𝐮𝐢𝐥𝐝 𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐢𝐝𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐭𝐲. In conversations with my little brother, I positively reinforce his God-given gifts and personality traits. This builds his identity: his perception of WHO HE IS. His identity stays with him forever and translates into every area of life. 𝟔. 𝐒𝐭𝐨𝐩 𝐨𝐛𝐬𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐨𝐯𝐞𝐫 𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐚𝐜𝐜𝐨𝐥𝐚𝐝𝐞𝐬. My little brother has accomplished a lot but has failed a lot. A young man’s confidence comes from who he is, not just what he does. Praise his wins but don’t let them become the entire focus. 𝟕. 𝐒𝐮𝐫𝐫𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐝 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞-𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐝𝐞𝐝 𝐦𝐞𝐧. My little brother's trust in me drastically increased when he met my friends and business partners. They share my values, beliefs, and confidence. Introduce the young man in your life to your friends and mentors - this gives his mind more evidence that he can trust you. 𝟖. 𝐁𝐞 𝐩𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐞𝐧𝐭. My little brother and I lift together. My little brother and I train in combat sports together. My little brother and I go to the range together. Schedule bonding activities like workouts, physical challenges, and hobbies with the young man you are called to lead. 𝟗. 𝐒𝐡𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐟𝐥𝐚𝐰𝐬. It’s easier for young men to trust someone they can relate to. It’s hard for young men to relate to someone who appears to be perfect on the outside. My little brother knows my failures and he’s seen my success. Be honest about your mistakes, correct them, and share the lessons you learned in the process. 𝟏𝟎. 𝐆𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐡𝐢𝐦 𝐩𝐨𝐬𝐢𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬 𝐨𝐟 𝐚𝐮𝐭𝐡𝐨𝐫𝐢𝐭𝐲. I ask my brother for help with things that he’s good at. Even if I could’ve figured it out myself. This is a practical way for him to practice leadership. Let young men lead you so they can learn to lead others. TLDR? It starts with you. If you want to give confidence, gain confidence. If you want to teach strength, become strong. If you want to teach self-respect, respect yourself first. Older brothers, dads, and mentors, let's help each other out. What advice would you give?

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