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Narcissists don’t lack empathy, they have low, performative, transactional, and variable empathy. Dr. Ramani Durvasula explains: They can read the room, cry at movies, and seem caring when it benefits them or when they feel safe and valued. But the empathy disappears when they’re not getting what they want.... show more
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Credit: @DoctorRamani on Finding Mastery. Full interview:
I think the thing with narcissism is less of an empathy problem and more of a problem with the Logos. They can’t handle the truth and that’s that.
Is anyone else getting the sinking feeling that psychological designations are as vague as astrological signs? Every human alive has the traits they describe for various pathologies, at different times in their life. Are we all sociopaths, bi-polar, neuro-divergent, etc? FAKE!
They only have empathy when they’re parasitic manipulators extractors But it’s empathy for them, not us
She’s going to do better than the DSM? This woman is a danger to our common sense
Why does this sound like every liberal I know?
@DoctorRamani spreads disinformation on personality disorders and is a sexist misandrist. Watch content by @hannahspierMD for more accurate information on personality disorders.
My flamingly narcissistic Cluster B ex wife said it best once in a rare moment of insight and honesty "I don't form normal bonds to my memories"...it's truly impossible to experience real love in the absence of such bonds, because love itself is a function of memory.
It is not a lack of emphatic capacity it a lack of morals and fairness
Exactly. They know how they are meant to feel and react, as they’ve observed it in others. Their performative version is the same as all acting - from Oscar level to pure ham.
🔥 Spot on insight from Dr. Ramani! Narcissists don’t lack empathy completely — they use it selectively as a tool. This is such a powerful reminder in leadership and relationships: True Emotional Intelligence is consistent empathy, not performative. In my IELTS/PTE & professional communication sessions, I always teach students and professionals: “Real connection comes from genuine listening and care — not just when it benefits you.” This skill separates good leaders from great ones. Have you ever dealt with transactional empathy in the workplace? Share your experience 👇 Let’s learn together! #EmotionalIntelligence #Leadership #SoftSkills #IELTS
When you have outsmarted 1, after many lessons, the level of darkness is unprecedented.
It doesn't make you a narcissist to have a problem being giving when you're feeling miserable and to be more giving when you're feeling great.😆
This makes so much sense... Omg... #narcissist 💯💯💯💯🎯
I don’t think she’s met the narcissists I have met . I know two who have zero empathy . Makes their own lives so so hard . They can be funny ~ but they’re not joking . I like to say it’s all about them all the time always . It’s never anyone else’s turn. I look after 2 now.
Therapists are frauds. One of America's biggest issues
The ego is basically a virus in the intellect. What else would prompt this: “The ego is so smart it invented the devil.” -Deepak Chopra
Imagine how is to live in pathological narcissistic family/relation job or society. Is more than a single individual. Is the HELL on the Earth!
Understanding and being able to replicate feelings does not mean they can feel them. It’s a tool used to manipulate for their own gain and to seem normal. It no way does a narcissist have empathy or feelings.
Yes that’s how it works.
They don't cry sincerely. They copy what others are doing or use tears as a tool.
The second that a third party who finally unravelled the extent of the lies they had been told about me dared to say something as gentle as "i've been really unfair to oisin" and they got to see the switch from the person that had been lying and doing awful shit to me
Perhaps they should apply equal effort to exposing the people who enable this behavior & their' faults and deficiencies. Perhaps if these "innocents" dealt with their own issues and recognized their own failings the world could improve. Poor Narcissists are blamed for everything
I don’t think it’s empathy at all. I think it’s incredible situational awareness, but their emotional IQ is horribly low.
@DoctorRamani has psycho eyes and is prolly a narc herself
@NarcissistBox They have a lack of empathy, which is what you described. Lack of empathy (very low levels of empathy) and no empathy are two different things.
No, they lack it but can MIMICK it. Bottom line, it’s all an act. They’re playing a role. Nothing they do is actual empathy.
Understanding other's feelings only helps predators to maintain feelings of superiority and willingness to exploit other's seeming weakness.
Bunch of bs
Otherwise known as "cold-empathy".
Oh wow! She got chunky in the last few years! 😳
I'm old enough to remember when we had sympathy.
Follow @karenmitchell__ . She has the actual research. A lot of the other research out there has been done by actual narcissists. Narcissists have zero empathy, and any they show is just practiced performance. They have brain damage to the amygdala and pre-frontal cortex. Dr. Ramani is helpful yet sometimes incorrect.
Accurate
It's much worse than this.
![Catherine Austin Fitts on how psychopaths are able to run the world "people who have no empathy are really good at... organizing for self-benefit" "[So] you have... 3 to 5% sort of psychopath[s] [at the top], [and then] 20 to 25% who are making a lot of money helping them" "then you have the other 60 to 70% [of the population] who can't fathom what's going on. And what the others are doing, what the smaller groups are doing, drives them crazy. And they become neurotic" This clip of Catherine Austin Fitts, a former Assistant Secretary of Housing and Urban Development, investment banker, and founder of the Solari Report (The Solari Report | Catherine Austin Fitts), is taken from a discussion with Alix Mayer (Alix Mayer) posted to YouTube on June 3, 2026. ----------------Partial transcription of clip--------------- "There's a wonderful book called Political Ponerology. Have you ever read it? Okay, so, the, the description of the book is as follows. It was a psychologist who had been a young man during Hitler in Poland. And after the war then Stalin came in and he was at university and he and a group of colleagues decided, you know, because they'd been so traumatized by all this tyranny, they said, we're going to study the intersection of psychopathy with politics. "And that's ponerology, the study of psychopathy mixed— And here's what they— And they wrote the book, he said, three times, tried to get it out from behind the Iron Curtain and then, failed, had to destroy it. And then when he finally got out after '89, he wrote it from memory. "And here's what it said. And what he said was that most people are born with empathy and they can't fathom not only that other people don't have empathy, but that the people who have no empathy are really good at getting together and organizing for self-benefit. "So the people with no empathy are much more effective at conspiracies than the people with empathy. Okay? "So anyway, what he said was about 20 to 25% of the population who are competent at running things are willing to work for the people who don't have empathy as long as they get paid well. "And if you look at the history of America, the way we've gotten here is a lot of people got paid a lot of money, whether with their stocks and bonds or whether their job helping the people who have no empathy do all the evil doing. "I mean, you know that because if you look at what's going on in medicine, you can see it clearly. "So what happens is you have the 3 to 5% sort of psychopathic, then you have the 20 to 25% who are making a lot of money helping them. And then you have the other 60 to 70% who can't fathom what's going on. And what the others are doing, what the smaller groups are doing drives them crazy. And they become neurotic. "They become neurotic about the food, they become neurotic about the healthcare, they become neurotic about programmable money. And until they finally come to understand, you're dealing with psychopathic and you're dealing with people who will help the psychopaths for money. "And what he said was once people could fathom what was going on, suddenly they started being effective."](https://image.24vids.com/tw-2063055849552216317/amplify_video_thumb/2063052175866249216/img/Ee9lnTHxA5xNsk08.jpg)
