
Dan Wuori
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Dan Wuori, Ph.D. | Author, The Daycare Myth: What We Get Wrong About Early Care and Education (and What We Should Do About It) available now from @TCPress
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Last week I shared a flight with a crying infant who, despite his mother’s best efforts, wasn’t easily calmed in the minutes just before and after takeoff. I was amazed by the level of anger it provoked among several fellow passengers - and one man in particular, who kept loudly asking if someone can’t “stick something in that kid’s mouth?” I can only imagine how uncomfortable the baby’s mother, traveling solo with her child, must have felt. She did eventually soothe her little guy (who may have cried for a total of five minutes) - but the man’s nastiness really soured the vibe on the flight - which may be why I felt so drawn to this video, which shows a markedly more empathetic community approach. Alarmed by his first visit to the barber shop, this little guy begins to melt down. Watch what the other patrons do to distract him from his anxiety and enable the barber to finish his work. Just beautiful. Remember that we’re all in this together. 🎥 via shop.barberclassic
Dan Wuori5,607,367 views • 2 years ago

Boop! So taken by how this little one steps in to comfort her crying sister. Watch carefully and you’ll see that she models behaviors that have almost certainly been used to comfort and distract her during times of sadness. She comes in close to make eye contact. She offers a playful boop on the nose to elicit a laugh. And then closes the deal with a much-needed hug. In all things, babies learn from the examples set by others. It’s clear that this little one has some outstanding - and emotionally intelligent - role models. I’m betting that big sister is one of them. Video via aguilaralba10 on X.
Dan Wuori5,293,528 views • 2 years ago

When and how does a baby’s love begin? The truth is that your baby begins falling in love with you even before you meet, becoming aware of (and learning to prefer) your voice during the final months in utero. (It may feel strange, but seriously, talk to your bump.) After birth, the attachment process begins in earnest. Your engaged and responsive caretaking, your tenderness, your smiles, your kisses, and even your smell draw your newborn closer and closer. And there is NOTHING your baby loves to look at more than YOUR face. Their adoring gaze is a sign of your secure attachment. But make no mistake, your face is also your baby’s most important teacher. Your baby studies you carefully - looking for clues about your emotional state (which informs what theirs should be), how you form language, and so much more. I’ve rarely seen a video that capture’s an infant’s love/attachment as beautifully as this one from TheRiceFam4Life on TT. Those eyes tell you all you need to know about the special bond this one has with her father. Just beautiful.
Dan Wuori5,402,246 views • 2 years ago

Do babies develop accents even before they can speak conventionally? The short answer is yes… and these linguistic markers begin even sooner than you might think. So many of you tagged me in this video yesterday featuring an infant that babbles with the same Scouse accent as his mother. Other than “no” he doesn’t speak a single conventional word, but listen to how the rhythm and intonation of his vocalizations mirror those to which he is exposed daily. As hearing becomes functional during the third trimester, infants are exposed to the distinct patterns of their mothers’ native language - with studies suggesting newborns can already distinguish (and prefer) what will become their native tongue only hours after birth. Incredibly this learning doesn’t wait until the babbling stage to evidence itself. Research suggests that even the cries of newborns reflect this preference. That’s right: babies cry with an accent. One major study on the topic showed that French babies cry with a rising intonation, while German infants favor a falling melody - both reflecting the patterns of their native languages. We’re only just beginning to understand the deep learning that begins in utero. It’s just more evidence that the period from prenatal to three is the most critical window in all of human development. This little Liverpudlian was shared to TT by iamcustardpot.
Dan Wuori2,985,994 views • 1 year ago

Wait… what?? This newborn caught mom and grandma off guard by displaying what appeared to be some very advanced skills. After all, most babies begin crawling between 6-10 months… so seeing this at just 3 DAYS? What gives?! What you’re seeing here IS, in fact, miraculous - but also very common to newborns. It’s known as the breast crawl. At birth, babies are equipped by nature with a special set of skills (reflexes) designed to help them thrive and survive in their new surroundings. The breast crawl combines several of these reflexes in a coordinated effort to find food. What you’re seeing is a combination of the stepping and rooting reflexes, typically demonstrated while baby is laying face down on mom’s stomach. The stepping reflex is activated when the soles of the feet come in contact with a solid surface… usually mom’s abdomen (but in this case the wall of the bassinet) and encourages alternating limb movement designed to help baby shimmy up mom’s chest toward the breast. The rooting reflex, meanwhile, stimulates baby to turn their head in the direction of contact with the face (in search of the nipple). Babies’ eyesight remains poor at this stage, but nature has equipped them with one more advantage: the ability to sniff out the smell of mother’s milk. Small bumps on the mother’s areola known as Montgomery Glands emit a scent that helps guide baby to the food they are seeking. Ultimately what you see in this fantastic video (posted to TT by samantha_elizabeth_) is not a baby about to start crawling across the room, but a hungry newborn using all the tools at their disposal to help find nourishment. And that may be even more amazing!
Dan Wuori4,163,959 views • 2 years ago

Here’s one of the most fascinating child development videos I’ve ever shared. As your baby learns language, they begin by approximating the examples you set. After a period of early experimentation with sound (including cries, coos and gurgles), infants begin babbling - making speech-like sounds (which often include components of conventional speech) that are - nonetheless - not yet conventionally meaningful. This babbling phase is a precursor to the use of formal words. And it happens in all languages. Including sign language. This video shows an infant (who, by the way, is not hearing impaired) “babbling” to her deaf grandparents. As they sign to her, she responds in kind, using her hands to approximate the signed communication that they are modeling. It’s a whole serve and return conversation, just as if they were conversing verbally. If you’ll watch carefully, you’ll note distinct turn taking. And - interestingly - that with her grandparents she largely avoids vocalizations, in favor of gesture. What a treat to see this rich example of bilingual language development. This fascinating video was shared to TT by mara_mccullough.
Dan Wuori2,901,798 views • 1 year ago

I couldn’t love this game any more if I tried. Watch how mom engages baby in a two step process here. There’s the gentle head tilt and the “ahhh” sound. Initially baby manages the tilt, but not the sound. So what does mom do? She adds it for her and keeps the game going. And next time around baby gets both parts! My favorite part might be the third attempt, when baby clearly attempts to vocalize the “ahhh” but nothing comes out. (There’s a lot of complexity here for such a little one.) Just fantastic. Way to build that brain, Mom! 🧠
Dan Wuori4,014,293 views • 2 years ago

As a parent, lap reading is a joy. It’s a chance to cuddle your little one, while exposing them to rich vocabulary, concepts of print, and the wonder of books. When it comes to infants, however, lap reading can deprive babies of their favorite (and most important) sight: YOU. Which is why you might want to explore face-to-face reading as well. (With your baby facing toward you and the book simultaneously.) Developmentally, there are multiple benefits to allowing your baby to see you as you read together. Your little one is an expert at “reading” your face. This posture allows your baby to track your eyes to discover what you’re tuning in to. It also allows them to watch your mouth and learn how you’re making the words and sounds that accompany the pictures. This clever little one illustrates the case beautifully, creating a face-to-face experience of her own. Watch as our hero divides her attention between the book (and her important page turning responsibility!) and dad’s face - which she swivels her head to admire with equal (if not greater) interest. Kudos to dad, as well, as he balances book time and face time with his daughter - taking time to honor her interest in connection and observation. The logistics can obviously be a little trickier (consider reading face-to-face as your partner holds baby in their lap as one potential solution) - but the benefits are well worth the effort. Face-to-face reading for the win! This adorable father-daughter duo was shared to IG by mylittlemissameliaa.
Dan Wuori435,655 views • 5 months ago

It’s a snake! 🐍 NO…it’s a BACON! 🥓 Is your child prone to irrational fears? When one of these triplets drops a piece of bacon on the kitchen floor, anxiety and tears ensue when her sister determines it looks like - and thus must ACTUALLY BE - a snake. Suddenly none of the three is comfortable picking it up… including the child who was literally just eating it. What causes her to rethink her own experience? Young children can be very susceptible to suggestion. Here, not only has her sister suggested that the stray bacon might actually be a snake, but is visibly agitated by the possibility - leading our hero to question even her own experience. What’s the best way to handle such fears as a parent? First, recognize that irrational fears are still fears. Treat your child’s concerns as valid - even when they may seem silly to you as an adult. Next, offer - and model - reassurance. Your own calmness will be an important cue to your child that they are not in danger. Finally, help your child to problem solve. Your questions and guidance are invaluable. In this case you might offer something like, “Oh isn’t that interesting? Snakes do sometimes look squiggly like that. But wasn’t this just in your hand? You ate it, right? And you wouldn’t have eaten a snake. I tell you what, let’s go take a closer look at it together and check it out!” And then file it away as a great family story. 🙂 These adorable little bacon lovers were shared to IG by alyssa_mcewen.
Dan Wuori2,219,180 views • 2 years ago

Your baby doesn’t need screens. 📺 Your baby doesn’t need expensive “educational” toys. Your baby needs you. Your time. Your love. Your undivided attention. Watch this little one’s eyes as he interacts with his dad. They never once leave the most beautiful sight he knows: his parent’s smiling face. This is how the brain is wired. This is how attachment is formed. This is how children learn to speak. No phones. No distractions. Just your baby and you. ❤️ This beautiful video via shia_moonj on IG.
Dan Wuori2,087,276 views • 2 years ago

Let’s hear it for this persistent little one. She’s on a mission to use her spoon and nothing is going to stop her. 🥄 🍓 My favorite part of this video is that - even after multiple attempts - she never once lets frustration get the better of her. While she’s still developing the motor skills that will soon make this task simple, she’s completely confident that this is going to work and willing to put in the effort to meet her goal. Often babies learn from us. But sometimes we can learn from them. Never give up. 🎥 original source unknown
Dan Wuori1,716,552 views • 2 years ago

Baby Beat Box! 🎤 I got such a kick out of this serve and return interaction. Watch this little one’s focus. His eyes NEVER leave Dad’s face as he works to unravel the mystery of the noises he can make with his mouth. But the best part of this video is something Dad does. Something all new parents can learn from. He stops and he waits… He gives Baby the time needed to process what he’s seen and heard. And wow, does it ever pay off. It’s not instantaneous. But baby mimics him back. So fantastic! As you interact with your baby, lean into that pause. You might be surprised by the results. This amazing duo was shared to IG by creabeatboxoficial.
Dan Wuori1,571,001 views • 2 years ago

It’s like looking in a mirror. 🪞 Check out the joint attention between this little one (10 weeks) and her big brother - who’s teaching an absolute master class in how to stimulate baby’s brain. I mean, are these two locked in or what? Brother is at baby’s level, up close, face-to-face and grinning from ear to ear. Their eye contact is unbroken. No distractions… just them. And he’s mirroring her vocalizations in a way that’s obviously thrilling for baby. Look at her face light up. Just beautiful. This sweet duo was shared to TT by gillianmccreery.
Dan Wuori1,589,907 views • 2 years ago

How long does a toddler hug last? As long as it needs to. When this little guy encountered his favorite character at Disney, he went in for the biggest and most heartfelt hug ever. When Mom suggests it might be time to give someone else a turn, it’s Winnie the Pooh himself who provides a non-verbal reminder that hugs end when a child’s needs are met. It’s a good rule of thumb for the little ones you love. You’ll never regret the extra seconds spent hugging your babies. Via Winnie.the.Pooh.ig
Dan Wuori1,431,971 views • 2 years ago

I only have eyes for you, Dad. 👀 Take a moment to admire not only this sweet “serve and return” conversation between this father and daughter - but the completely unbroken eye contact they share. Eye contact is an important early developmental milestone for your baby and key to strengthening attachment during infancy. So carve out time for regular face-to-face interaction. This eight-week-old is in a particular sweet spot on the eye contact front, as newborns’ vision tends to take on greater clarity and focus between 6-10 weeks. Suddenly see can see dad’s face in detail and doesn’t want to miss a single second. What a sweet duo. (Note that if your baby is not making regular eye contact by 2-3 months of age, it’s worth bringing this to the attention of your pediatrician - as this may be a sign of a vision issue or other developmental concern.) This great video was shared to IG by marywrites.
Dan Wuori1,525,295 views • 2 years ago

Let’s talk about the development of self regulation. You may have seen this recent TikTok trend in which parents covertly film themselves placing candy in front of their young children, then contrive a reason to walk away… instructing the child not to eat any until they return. It’s interesting to watch the results, most of which depict (slightly younger) children contemplating the directive briefly, if at all, and then beginning to eat the candy. But this little one is different. Russian psychologist Lev Vygotsky proposed that self-regulation (the ability to control one’s impulses) emerges in parallel with the development of symbolic thought - and begins with the use of private or “self-directed” speech. That’s exactly what we’re seeing here. Asked not to eat the candy in her mother’s absence, this little one uses spoken language as a tool to help regulate her own behavior. She repeats her mother’s instruction over and over, actively reminding herself of mom’s directive for almost the entirely of her absence. While she mimes and contemplates eating the chocolates, she ultimately finds success with the support of a newly minted cognitive tool. 🧠 A lovely illustration of developmental theory in practice. Have you ever noticed your child using self-directed speech? What did it help them to accomplish? 🎥 mayaejackson IG
Dan Wuori1,554,584 views • 2 years ago

Is there anything better than a baby’s laughter? Dad has this little one in stitches as he… plants cucumbers? What’s so funny about that? 🤔 The answer has a lot to do with baby’s expectations. Young children have strong reactions to the unexpected. When something surprising occurs they first assess the risk. If they perceive danger then tears are likely. But what if something isn’t dangerous… it’s just plain weird? Think about this one from baby’s growing perspective. At home, daddy isn’t known for throwing things on the ground. In fact, just the opposite. When something falls on the floor, he’s always quick to pick it up. So when he starts suddenly - and repeatedly - throwing cucumber plants on the ground… now THAT’s funny. For babies, safe + unexpected = comedy gold. This great video was posted to IG by edibleuprisingfarm.
Dan Wuori1,510,998 views • 2 years ago

It’s like looking in a mirror. 🪞 Check out the joint attention between this little one (10 weeks) and her big brother - who’s teaching an absolute master class in how to stimulate baby’s brain. I mean, are these two locked in or what? Brother is at baby’s level, up close, face-to-face and grinning from ear to ear. Their eye contact is unbroken. No distractions… just them. And he’s mirroring her vocalizations in a way that’s obviously thrilling for baby. Look at her face light up. It’s a great reminder that parents aren’t the only ones who can engage in serve and return interactions. Just beautiful. This sweet duo was shared to TT by gillianmccreery.
Dan Wuori839,465 views • 1 year ago

Let’s talk about language-rich environments. One of the determining factors in both the speed at which your child develops language and the size of his/her early vocabulary is exposure to (direct & interactive) caregiver speech. Even before your baby is using language conventionally, he/she is soaking up all of yours. (And I do mean ALL… keep it G-rated.) One way to support your baby’s language/brain development is to narrate your life together. (Engage your child by talking about the steps you’re taking as you fold the laundry, for example. Or describe what you’ve received as you sort through the mail.) This grandpa gets a gold star here - not only narrating, but turning the simple act of rolling a ball back and forth into a thrilling TV sports play-by-play that includes the baby’s name and actions over and over. What a lucky little guy to be so immersed in language. He’ll be better off for it… just you wait and see! What strategies have you used to ensure your child is surrounded by interactive talk? 🎥 Kesler.Brian IG
Dan Wuori1,308,150 views • 2 years ago