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Dr. Gabor Maté's direct message to parents (36-second clip): No matter your lifestyle, stay the primary attachment figure for your children. - Delay playdates until attachment is rock-solid. - Daycare or school? Don't assume they "still belong to you" when they come home—attachment can shift when kids spend most...

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A child's sexuality does not erase the years you spent raising them. It doesn't erase the sleepless nights, the sacrifices, the memories, or the love you once had for them. If your child comes to you with the truth about who they are, remember that they are still the same child who called you "Mom" or "Dad." The only difference is that they trusted you enough to be honest. Rejecting, disowning, or abandoning your child doesn't change who they are. It only changes where they feel safe. Instead of running into your arms, they may run into the arms of strangers, where they can be vulnerable to exploitation, abuse, homelessness, depression, or even suicide. Love should never be conditional. A parent's love should be the safest place a child can ever find, not the first place they experience rejection. You don't have to agree with everything about your child to treat them with dignity, compassion, and love. Families can have difficult conversations without abandoning one another. At the end of the day, ask yourself this: if your child needed you at their lowest moment, would you want them to remember your love or your rejection? Children don't stop being your children because they tell you the truth about themselves. They still need guidance. They still need protection. Most of all, they still need their parents. Choose love over rejection. Choose understanding over abandonment. Your child will remember that choice for the rest of their life.

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Secure attachment during infancy lays the foundation for our lifelong mental and physical health. As I wind down this week’s series on infant/toddler attachment, I wanted to conclude with a few final words about why it matters so much. Obviously, strong relational connections between parents and children are beneficial in and of themselves. But there’s more to it than that. Attachment grounds and shapes our long-term mental health as well as our ability to enter into positive relationships with others. You see, children who are securely attached tend to be just that: Secure. This allows them to navigate the world independently, with confidence in themselves and their abilities. It almost seems contradictory that independence would spring from dependence. But it most surely does. The more love and care children receive during their earliest months and years and the more attentively and predictably their needs are met by treasured loved ones, the more they experience the world as safe place. And this is a gift to both the brain and the body. When the human body is not flooded daily with stress hormones and when anxiety occurs - not as a constant state - but more occasionally in response to life’s challenges, not only are we better prepared to deal with it - but our bodies don’t bear the long-term burden of a constant stress response. This is a fascinating area of early development that we are still only beginning to fully understand, but suffice it to say that positive early experiences - both in the home and in conjunction with high quality early education and care programs- are increasingly linked to lifelong health. This brain-body connection has huge implications not only for individual children, but for our public policy. A tweet is hardly the place to unpack this conversation in full, but know that my new book, The Daycare Myth (which can be ordered from the link in my bio) explores in detail the disconnect between what we know about the science of early development and how it is enacted (or, more frequently, not enacted) in our public policy. The costs - both developmentally and economically - are astronomical. And not only to individuals, but to taxpayers - who would be far better served by making small investments in getting things right in the first place than paying for the results of our inaction across the lifespan. It all begins with attachment. Thanks for following along this week! ——— This lovely video - which, to be clear, is NOT an illustration of insecure attachment - was shared to IG by olliejamesfaulds.

Dan Wuori

101,524 Aufrufe • vor 2 Jahren

I don't know if many people have come across this young scholar, but I've been following his lectures recently, and Alhamdulillah, I have benefited immensely. May Allah ﷻ keep him steadfast upon the truth and continue to increase him in beneficial knowledge. In this short clip, he reminds us of one of the greatest responsibilities we have: our parents. He said, "If your mother is still alive, you are fortunate. If your father is still alive, you are fortunate." Instead of asking others to pray for you, strive to earn the sincere du'a of your parents. Their prayers for their children are among the greatest blessings a person can have. Honour them. Serve them. Give them gifts that make them happy, as long as they do not involve disobedience to Allah ﷻ. Appreciate them while they are still with you. He also shared a profound reminder: whoever humiliates or mistreats their parents may live to see the same treatment from their own children. Likewise, when you honour your parents, Allah often blesses you with children who will honour you. As the saying goes: What you sow is what you reap. Be kind to your parent even if they're non Muslims. Obey them except when they command you to do what Allãh doesn't approve of. May Allah ﷻ make us among those who are dutiful to our parents, accept our service to them, and grant us righteous offspring. Āmīn.
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I don't know if many people have come across this young scholar, but I've been following his lectures recently, and Alhamdulillah, I have benefited immensely. May Allah ﷻ keep him steadfast upon the truth and continue to increase him in beneficial knowledge. In this short clip, he reminds us of one of the greatest responsibilities we have: our parents. He said, "If your mother is still alive, you are fortunate. If your father is still alive, you are fortunate." Instead of asking others to pray for you, strive to earn the sincere du'a of your parents. Their prayers for their children are among the greatest blessings a person can have. Honour them. Serve them. Give them gifts that make them happy, as long as they do not involve disobedience to Allah ﷻ. Appreciate them while they are still with you. He also shared a profound reminder: whoever humiliates or mistreats their parents may live to see the same treatment from their own children. Likewise, when you honour your parents, Allah often blesses you with children who will honour you. As the saying goes: What you sow is what you reap. Be kind to your parent even if they're non Muslims. Obey them except when they command you to do what Allãh doesn't approve of. May Allah ﷻ make us among those who are dutiful to our parents, accept our service to them, and grant us righteous offspring. Āmīn.

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13,865 Aufrufe • vor 26 Tagen

We all want secure attachment. And the best part of our attachment patterns is we can shift them. Through self awareness, practice, and healthy communication. People with secure attachment have 3 core traits: 1. The ability to not take things personally: this gives them space to understand people close to them aren’t attacking them. It also makes it so they can get to self reflection. 2. The ability to self reflect: this is actually more rare than people realize. Those with secure attachment can self reflect. They can ask “is there truth here?” “Is this valid?” If it is, they face it and begin to integrate. Integration is why people with secure attachment patterns tend to grow and evolve more than those with insecure patterns. 3. The ability to be accountable for their impact: if they self reflect and see that someone has a point, they can be accountable. Instead of deflecting or being defensive they can say “I see where you’re coming from” and “I’m sorry and want to do better.” They create a space to have conversations which is why people in their lives feel safe and heard. All of us can practice these traits. It’s about hearing things in new ways and responding in new ways. You’ll see how differently people engage with us when we’re not trying to defend our self image or deny their reality.
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We all want secure attachment. And the best part of our attachment patterns is we can shift them. Through self awareness, practice, and healthy communication. People with secure attachment have 3 core traits: 1. The ability to not take things personally: this gives them space to understand people close to them aren’t attacking them. It also makes it so they can get to self reflection. 2. The ability to self reflect: this is actually more rare than people realize. Those with secure attachment can self reflect. They can ask “is there truth here?” “Is this valid?” If it is, they face it and begin to integrate. Integration is why people with secure attachment patterns tend to grow and evolve more than those with insecure patterns. 3. The ability to be accountable for their impact: if they self reflect and see that someone has a point, they can be accountable. Instead of deflecting or being defensive they can say “I see where you’re coming from” and “I’m sorry and want to do better.” They create a space to have conversations which is why people in their lives feel safe and heard. All of us can practice these traits. It’s about hearing things in new ways and responding in new ways. You’ll see how differently people engage with us when we’re not trying to defend our self image or deny their reality.

Dr. Nicole LePera

809,439 Aufrufe • vor 2 Jahren

It is hard to watch other families give their kids things you can’t afford and wonder if your children are falling behind. But you don’t have to go into debt, pause the Baby Steps or sacrifice your family’s financial peace just to keep up. Your kids don’t need the most expensive school, the nicest car or every opportunity money can buy. They need parents who love them enough to say no, teach gratitude, model integrity and show them how to do hard things. Staying on the Baby Steps isn’t depriving your kids. You are teaching them that wisdom matters more than appearances and that money is a tool, not a measure of their worth. You aren’t failing your kids because you can’t give them everything. You are teaching them how to live like no one else so someday they can live and give like no one else.
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It is hard to watch other families give their kids things you can’t afford and wonder if your children are falling behind. But you don’t have to go into debt, pause the Baby Steps or sacrifice your family’s financial peace just to keep up. Your kids don’t need the most expensive school, the nicest car or every opportunity money can buy. They need parents who love them enough to say no, teach gratitude, model integrity and show them how to do hard things. Staying on the Baby Steps isn’t depriving your kids. You are teaching them that wisdom matters more than appearances and that money is a tool, not a measure of their worth. You aren’t failing your kids because you can’t give them everything. You are teaching them how to live like no one else so someday they can live and give like no one else.

Dave Ramsey

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ADHD isn't defiance or a "broken" brain—it's often a sensitive child's quiet survival strategy. Gabor Maté: In stressed families, a highly attuned kid absorbs the tension and protects themselves by tuning out—going absent-minded. It's coping, not defect. These children tend to be deeply empathetic, warm-hearted, talented in unique ways... yet carry insecurity from the same stress. What they crave most? Not stricter focus training or behavior fixes—true emotional security. Feeling deeply seen, understood, and safe. Shift from "fix the kid" to "make the environment feel safe for them." This 48-second clip reframes ADHD with radical compassion—especially powerful for parents, teachers, or anyone who's ever felt "scattered" themselves. Parents of kids with attention challenges: Does this view resonate with what you've seen in your child? Adults with ADHD: Looking back, did early family stress play a role in how it showed up? Anyone: What's one way emotional safety changed (or could change) focus/attention for you or someone close? Raw, kind stories welcome—no judgment, just real insight.
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ADHD isn't defiance or a "broken" brain—it's often a sensitive child's quiet survival strategy. Gabor Maté: In stressed families, a highly attuned kid absorbs the tension and protects themselves by tuning out—going absent-minded. It's coping, not defect. These children tend to be deeply empathetic, warm-hearted, talented in unique ways... yet carry insecurity from the same stress. What they crave most? Not stricter focus training or behavior fixes—true emotional security. Feeling deeply seen, understood, and safe. Shift from "fix the kid" to "make the environment feel safe for them." This 48-second clip reframes ADHD with radical compassion—especially powerful for parents, teachers, or anyone who's ever felt "scattered" themselves. Parents of kids with attention challenges: Does this view resonate with what you've seen in your child? Adults with ADHD: Looking back, did early family stress play a role in how it showed up? Anyone: What's one way emotional safety changed (or could change) focus/attention for you or someone close? Raw, kind stories welcome—no judgment, just real insight.

Camus

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HYDE: “This is you. This is your sister, your wife, your daughter, but this right here is you. This is their reaction when you are killed. This is the joy they feel when your sister is raped, when your children are castrated, brainwashed to hate you. This is their ecstasy when the floor of the subway car is awash in your blood. This is you. Make no mistake. That is a symbol. That is you. But this won't last long. They can't help themselves because they're so ugly and so low that the only joy they can experience, the only good that they can envision, is to take something beautiful or innocent down to their level. And when they can't do it, the next best thing is blood.”
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HYDE: “This is you. This is your sister, your wife, your daughter, but this right here is you. This is their reaction when you are killed. This is the joy they feel when your sister is raped, when your children are castrated, brainwashed to hate you. This is their ecstasy when the floor of the subway car is awash in your blood. This is you. Make no mistake. That is a symbol. That is you. But this won't last long. They can't help themselves because they're so ugly and so low that the only joy they can experience, the only good that they can envision, is to take something beautiful or innocent down to their level. And when they can't do it, the next best thing is blood.”

Grace Chong, MBI

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When and how does a baby’s love begin? The truth is that your baby begins falling in love with you even before you meet, becoming aware of (and learning to prefer) your voice during the final months in utero. (It may feel strange, but seriously, talk to your bump.) After birth, the attachment process begins in earnest. Your engaged and responsive caretaking, your tenderness, your smiles, your kisses, and even your smell draw your newborn closer and closer. And there is NOTHING your baby loves to look at more than YOUR face. Their adoring gaze is a sign of your secure attachment. But make no mistake, your face is also your baby’s most important teacher. Your baby studies you carefully - looking for clues about your emotional state (which informs what theirs should be), how you form language, and so much more. I’ve rarely seen a video that capture’s an infant’s love/attachment as beautifully as this one from TheRiceFam4Life on TT. Those eyes tell you all you need to know about the special bond this one has with her father. Just beautiful.
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When and how does a baby’s love begin? The truth is that your baby begins falling in love with you even before you meet, becoming aware of (and learning to prefer) your voice during the final months in utero. (It may feel strange, but seriously, talk to your bump.) After birth, the attachment process begins in earnest. Your engaged and responsive caretaking, your tenderness, your smiles, your kisses, and even your smell draw your newborn closer and closer. And there is NOTHING your baby loves to look at more than YOUR face. Their adoring gaze is a sign of your secure attachment. But make no mistake, your face is also your baby’s most important teacher. Your baby studies you carefully - looking for clues about your emotional state (which informs what theirs should be), how you form language, and so much more. I’ve rarely seen a video that capture’s an infant’s love/attachment as beautifully as this one from TheRiceFam4Life on TT. Those eyes tell you all you need to know about the special bond this one has with her father. Just beautiful.

Dan Wuori

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Andrew Schulz discusses the fear parents have of vaccinating their children. “It's very easy for people who don't have kids to tell you, ‘oh, just trust the doctors.’” “The second you have a kid, it is probably the most terrifying thing you'll ever do in your entire life, injecting something into the most perfect thing you've ever created.” “Every new parent that I talk to is concerned about this.” “And then every single day wondering and seeing if she's still smiling and seeing if she's still okay, and feeling responsible if anything negative happens.” “And then if you don't do it, feeling responsible if she got the measles or mumps or whatever.” “Don't call us quacks, just call us parents who care for our kids.”
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Andrew Schulz discusses the fear parents have of vaccinating their children. “It's very easy for people who don't have kids to tell you, ‘oh, just trust the doctors.’” “The second you have a kid, it is probably the most terrifying thing you'll ever do in your entire life, injecting something into the most perfect thing you've ever created.” “Every new parent that I talk to is concerned about this.” “And then every single day wondering and seeing if she's still smiling and seeing if she's still okay, and feeling responsible if anything negative happens.” “And then if you don't do it, feeling responsible if she got the measles or mumps or whatever.” “Don't call us quacks, just call us parents who care for our kids.”

End Tribalism in Politics

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