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Shouldn’t act shocked when anxiety and depression exploded after an entire generation was raised on lies. Jonathan Haidt and Greg Lukianoff called them the Great Untruths in The Coddling of the American Mind: 1) what doesn’t kill you makes you weaker >kids taught to avoid all discomfort and risk... grew more fragile instead of resilient. 2) always trust your feelings >treating every emotional reaction as proof of fact turned ordinary anxiety into evidence of danger. 3) life is a battle between good people and bad people >framing disagreement as a moral emergency made every argument feel like war. Shielding them from hard ideas and hurt feelings left them weaker, more anxious, and less able to handle the real world. The more protected, the more fragile they became.show more

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Few public intellectuals have done more to warn Americans about how the coddling of children produces intolerant adults than Jonathan Haidt and Greg Lukianoff. Their 2018 book, The Coddling of the American Mind, argued that helicopter parenting, the decline of unsupervised play, and the rise of campus safetyism had set up a generation for failure. They warned that universities were teaching students three Great Untruths: that hardship makes you weaker, that you should always trust your feelings, and that life is a battle between good people and evil people. Haidt, a social psychologist and professor at NYU's Stern School of Business, has spent more than a decade documenting the link between fragility and authoritarianism. Lukianoff, the president of the Foundation for Individual Rights and Expression, took over the group in 2006 and has spent two decades documenting censorship on American campuses. FIRE today operates with an annual budget above $32 million and a staff of 120, including roughly 20 lawyers. For exactly that reason, it was dispiriting to watch students at Haidt’s own university enact the behavior he and Lukianoff have spent a decade trying to combat. Graduates booed Haidt as NYU President Linda Mills welcomed him to the stage at Yankee Stadium on May 14, 2026. About three dozen students walked out of the venue while he spoke. The booing followed a May 5 open letter from the Executive Committee of the NYU Student Government Assembly, which called Haidt’s selection “deeply unsettling” and demanded that the administration reconsider its decision. Most revealingly, the committee complained that “many students have reported feelings of disappointment, disgust, unenthusiasm, defeat, and embarrassment,” language that mirrors the therapeutic vocabulary Haidt and Lukianoff diagnosed as the central pathology in Coddling. The students treated emotional discomfort with a speaker’s ideas as the equivalent of a physical threat. “Was he the safest option,” asked the students, without any apparent irony, “considering the current political climate and his critiques of liberal ideology?”.... Please subscribe now to support Public's award-winning journalism, read the full article, and watch the full video!

Few public intellectuals have done more to warn Americans about how the coddling of children produces intolerant adults than Jonathan Haidt and Greg Lukianoff. Their 2018 book, The Coddling of the American Mind, argued that helicopter parenting, the decline of unsupervised play, and the rise of campus safetyism had set up a generation for failure. They warned that universities were teaching students three Great Untruths: that hardship makes you weaker, that you should always trust your feelings, and that life is a battle between good people and evil people. Haidt, a social psychologist and professor at NYU's Stern School of Business, has spent more than a decade documenting the link between fragility and authoritarianism. Lukianoff, the president of the Foundation for Individual Rights and Expression, took over the group in 2006 and has spent two decades documenting censorship on American campuses. FIRE today operates with an annual budget above $32 million and a staff of 120, including roughly 20 lawyers. For exactly that reason, it was dispiriting to watch students at Haidt’s own university enact the behavior he and Lukianoff have spent a decade trying to combat. Graduates booed Haidt as NYU President Linda Mills welcomed him to the stage at Yankee Stadium on May 14, 2026. About three dozen students walked out of the venue while he spoke. The booing followed a May 5 open letter from the Executive Committee of the NYU Student Government Assembly, which called Haidt’s selection “deeply unsettling” and demanded that the administration reconsider its decision. Most revealingly, the committee complained that “many students have reported feelings of disappointment, disgust, unenthusiasm, defeat, and embarrassment,” language that mirrors the therapeutic vocabulary Haidt and Lukianoff diagnosed as the central pathology in Coddling. The students treated emotional discomfort with a speaker’s ideas as the equivalent of a physical threat. “Was he the safest option,” asked the students, without any apparent irony, “considering the current political climate and his critiques of liberal ideology?”.... Please subscribe now to support Public's award-winning journalism, read the full article, and watch the full video!

Michael Shellenberger

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Jeffery Mead

846,732 views • 9 months ago

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Camus

234,182 views • 3 months ago

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223,413 views • 1 month ago

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Jonathan Haidt had a sharp take on campus protests on The Daily Show: The shouting down of speakers, the “speech is violence” mindset, the fragility — it all kicked in around 2014 with Gen Z. These kids grew up without an antifragile childhood, got way too much therapy, and now treat every uncomfortable idea like trauma. He gave the example of a Harvard student in the encampments basically saying: “If Harvard cares so much about my mental health, why won’t they just divest?” This shift from debating ideas to demanding emotional safety has changed campus culture in troubling ways. As Thomas Sowell often reminds us, there are no solutions, only trade-offs — and prioritizing feelings over truth and resilience is a dangerous one. What do you think — is framing disagreement as a mental health threat helping students, or is it making them more fragile in the long run?

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16,162 views • 3 months ago

YOU HAD A BAD GAME … GOOD As parents, we want the best for our kids. We want them to crush it on the court. When they don’t, it’s easy to get mad, make excuses, blame other people. Bad games are a blessing, bc of what we can learn from them. Players should be pissed at bad games… the more we embrace it and support them, the more they’ll use the adversity to grow and become stronger

YOU HAD A BAD GAME … GOOD As parents, we want the best for our kids. We want them to crush it on the court. When they don’t, it’s easy to get mad, make excuses, blame other people. Bad games are a blessing, bc of what we can learn from them. Players should be pissed at bad games… the more we embrace it and support them, the more they’ll use the adversity to grow and become stronger

Steve Dagostino

20,135 views • 1 year ago

The reality is that transgender people have a mental illness called “Gender Dysphoria” and the Democrats have TAKEN ADVANTAGE of them. These people were fed lies by the far left and the liberal media leading them to believe they are victims, and made us out to be their oppressors. This has turned a subset of them into DOMESTIC TERRORISTS. Every Democrat that called us "Nazis" or "Fascists" is DIRECTLY RESPONSIBLE for their violent actions, and for the TRANS SYMPATHIZER who murdered Charlie Kirk. The left created this narrative, planted the seed in the heads of these people, and as elected officials they have legitimized their anger and violence.

The reality is that transgender people have a mental illness called “Gender Dysphoria” and the Democrats have TAKEN ADVANTAGE of them. These people were fed lies by the far left and the liberal media leading them to believe they are victims, and made us out to be their oppressors. This has turned a subset of them into DOMESTIC TERRORISTS. Every Democrat that called us "Nazis" or "Fascists" is DIRECTLY RESPONSIBLE for their violent actions, and for the TRANS SYMPATHIZER who murdered Charlie Kirk. The left created this narrative, planted the seed in the heads of these people, and as elected officials they have legitimized their anger and violence.

Ronny Jackson

72,434 views • 11 months ago

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The Obama Presidential Center is more than just a campus; it’s a living institution rooted in community, and built to serve generations to come. We built it with you and your families in mind, and that’s why you'll be greeted by our amazing team when you visit. We’ve made sure of it. More than 17,000 people applied for frontline jobs at the Center, and we hired the top 1 percent. Because, as President Obama says, “When people come here, we want them to feel what makes the South Side so special—that mix of warmth and grit, the sense of humor that can brighten any day, the creativity that turns challenges into opportunities, and the joy that shows up in every block, every church, every family reunion.” Recently, President Obama welcomed these new employees in our auditorium, and he greeted them as he toured the Museum and campus with Obama Foundation CEO Valerie Jarrett. He talked with them about how every job here matters. He said each one of us is responsible for making our visitors feel welcome and safe and to remember we are all ambassadors of hope. We all cannot wait to welcome you.

The Obama Foundation

19,111 views • 3 months ago

Khia Reads JT to filth and every word sounds like missile 💀 "they told you to get your ugIy asS off the stage and i'm gonna have to agree with the people my email was full of them sending them videos and comments of your asS looking like a whole f00l so now you are back on the docket one more again"

Khia Reads JT to filth and every word sounds like missile 💀 "they told you to get your ugIy asS off the stage and i'm gonna have to agree with the people my email was full of them sending them videos and comments of your asS looking like a whole f00l so now you are back on the docket one more again"

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My advice on travelling to NEPAL: “Don’t come to look at the mountains, come to have the mountains look at you.” For thousands of years people having been coming to the Himalayas……seeking, pilgrimming, questing. Hoping to “see” the great Mountains of Myth, and what you will find is that the mountains have been seeking to see you. Calling you to them, you have heard it in your soul, the great songs of dreams. Some people come as Kings, and the Himalayas will show them what being a beggar is. Some people come as beggars, and are shown the riches of a Life. This is Myth playing out in real time, no matter how modern the world of humans seems to get, the Himalayas are timeless and always watching. People have come to these mountains, and from them learned Yoga asanas, people have come and have died, people have come and found freedom……and people will always come. The great Saint who brought the Dharma to Tibet, Padmasambhava, was no exception, and was held in the valley of modern Kathmandu for a long period of time, before he was allowed to proceed on his historic journey. The Himalayas did this, preparing him for his future tasks. Nepal is a cacophony of sights and sounds, and it’s easy to get distracted. It’s even easier to be a “tourist” and miss Nepal completely. My advice: if the Himalayas called you to them, and you took action and got yourself here, then humble one self and listen with more than your eyes and ears. The Himalayas will sing to you, if you get quiet enough to hear them. Go on a long walk, without a reason to come back……as good old Henry David Thoreau said, “Saunter”. #travel #adventure #Nepal

Damon Zumbroegel

12,159 views • 29 days ago

"Alhamdullilah, the entire park is free of women, and it is safe for all men to come and have a good time," says this Taliban member from the Ministry of Vice and Virtue. This deep-seated misogyny and obsessive need to control and dominate women remind me of the concept of "fragile masculinity" that I read about a while ago. These people are afraid of women autonomy, and the mere presence of women in public spaces makes them feel their fragile manhood is being challenged. They often hide that fragility by using excuses, such as religion and the Taliban-created "Afghan culture."

"Alhamdullilah, the entire park is free of women, and it is safe for all men to come and have a good time," says this Taliban member from the Ministry of Vice and Virtue. This deep-seated misogyny and obsessive need to control and dominate women remind me of the concept of "fragile masculinity" that I read about a while ago. These people are afraid of women autonomy, and the mere presence of women in public spaces makes them feel their fragile manhood is being challenged. They often hide that fragility by using excuses, such as religion and the Taliban-created "Afghan culture."

Natiq Malikzada

854,032 views • 2 years ago

“You hate black people”. While providing no proof. This is what black conservatives deal with all the time. Baseless attacks from other black Americans instead of real arguments. The good news? More and more black people are waking up to the fact that they don’t have to stay on the democratic plantation. That’s a positive sign.

“You hate black people”. While providing no proof. This is what black conservatives deal with all the time. Baseless attacks from other black Americans instead of real arguments. The good news? More and more black people are waking up to the fact that they don’t have to stay on the democratic plantation. That’s a positive sign.

Jeffery Mead

95,359 views • 1 year ago

🔥“ It’s a fact of life some people are GAY…you know what’s not a fact of life…THAT CHILDREN NEED TO BE SHOT DEAD IN SCHOOLS” - Walz 2024 Unless they are White Christian kids & you & the leftists fear mongered Trans Robin Westman into doing it…because THAT is a fact of life for families right now. When is the left going to STOP WEAPONIZING THE MENTALLY ILL to doing their DARK DEEDS by preying upon them? The more they continue to pretend as if Donald Trump is a tyrant who will bring them harm and take away their rights and use terms like DICTATOR the more this will continue to happen….and it’s EXACTLY WHAT THEY WANT. Just like when Zooey Zephyr kept telling Republicans THEY HAVE BLOOD ON THEIR HANDS of the LBGTQ community.They are the hate group.

🔥“ It’s a fact of life some people are GAY…you know what’s not a fact of life…THAT CHILDREN NEED TO BE SHOT DEAD IN SCHOOLS” - Walz 2024 Unless they are White Christian kids & you & the leftists fear mongered Trans Robin Westman into doing it…because THAT is a fact of life for families right now. When is the left going to STOP WEAPONIZING THE MENTALLY ILL to doing their DARK DEEDS by preying upon them? The more they continue to pretend as if Donald Trump is a tyrant who will bring them harm and take away their rights and use terms like DICTATOR the more this will continue to happen….and it’s EXACTLY WHAT THEY WANT. Just like when Zooey Zephyr kept telling Republicans THEY HAVE BLOOD ON THEIR HANDS of the LBGTQ community.They are the hate group.

Johnny St.Pete

140,035 views • 1 year ago

Tim Walz says of Trump’s appeal to young men, “If you don’t give kids a place to belong, they’ll go find one.” Walz thinks he’s talking about the importance of music classes in public school or something stupid like that, but is more right than he realizes. The left made young men, especially young white men, into complete punching bags. They said their fathers and grandfathers were evil, they discriminated against them and said they deserved it, and more. The left told men every day that society didn’t need them and didn’t want them. So, they turned to somebody who was ready to fight for them. Now, the left is in a shambles, and it was all of their own making.

Tim Walz says of Trump’s appeal to young men, “If you don’t give kids a place to belong, they’ll go find one.” Walz thinks he’s talking about the importance of music classes in public school or something stupid like that, but is more right than he realizes. The left made young men, especially young white men, into complete punching bags. They said their fathers and grandfathers were evil, they discriminated against them and said they deserved it, and more. The left told men every day that society didn’t need them and didn’t want them. So, they turned to somebody who was ready to fight for them. Now, the left is in a shambles, and it was all of their own making.

Charlie Kirk

385,569 views • 1 year ago

This is a real clip. The fact that I have to say that is evidence of the fact that people on the left have lost touch with reality and every time I see things like this it blows my mind. Why do you need to make the maps more gay?

This is a real clip. The fact that I have to say that is evidence of the fact that people on the left have lost touch with reality and every time I see things like this it blows my mind. Why do you need to make the maps more gay?

Insurrection Barbie

16,990 views • 5 months ago

Jordan Peterson on why social anxiety is really a self-focus problem: Dr Jordan B Peterson explains that social anxiety is fundamentally driven by excessive self-referential thinking. "If you're feeling social anxiety in a situation, part of the reason for that is because you're thinking about how you're feeling." He points to fascinating research on language patterns and mental health. When you analyze the words people use in speech and writing, a striking pattern emerges: the more someone refers to themselves, the more likely they are to be depressed or psychotic. "You can actually distinguish with 75% accuracy between people who are clinically depressed or clinically psychotic and people who aren't by the number of times they refer to themselves." The core insight is simple but powerful: "The more you think about yourself, the more miserable you are." But Peterson warns against the obvious trap in trying to fix this. You can't just tell yourself to stop thinking about yourself. That's still thinking about yourself, and you'll fall into the same pit. Instead, he offers a practical redirect: "If what you decide to do is to pay way more attention to the other person and try to make them comfortable, then that social anxiety will disappear." The solution is a redirection. Rather than fighting your own self-consciousness, you shift your entire attention outward. Make the people around you more comfortable. Focus on them, not on how you're coming across. It's a counterintuitive reframe: the cure for feeling awkward is caring less about your own performance and more about the person in front of you.

Jordan Peterson on why social anxiety is really a self-focus problem: Dr Jordan B Peterson explains that social anxiety is fundamentally driven by excessive self-referential thinking. "If you're feeling social anxiety in a situation, part of the reason for that is because you're thinking about how you're feeling." He points to fascinating research on language patterns and mental health. When you analyze the words people use in speech and writing, a striking pattern emerges: the more someone refers to themselves, the more likely they are to be depressed or psychotic. "You can actually distinguish with 75% accuracy between people who are clinically depressed or clinically psychotic and people who aren't by the number of times they refer to themselves." The core insight is simple but powerful: "The more you think about yourself, the more miserable you are." But Peterson warns against the obvious trap in trying to fix this. You can't just tell yourself to stop thinking about yourself. That's still thinking about yourself, and you'll fall into the same pit. Instead, he offers a practical redirect: "If what you decide to do is to pay way more attention to the other person and try to make them comfortable, then that social anxiety will disappear." The solution is a redirection. Rather than fighting your own self-consciousness, you shift your entire attention outward. Make the people around you more comfortable. Focus on them, not on how you're coming across. It's a counterintuitive reframe: the cure for feeling awkward is caring less about your own performance and more about the person in front of you.

Kevin Tanaka

108,695 views • 4 months ago

WOW!! Young pilot ditches plane in the Atlantic off Boca… and just walks out. Competence is still alive. Just watched a young pilot put a single-engine plane into the water off Boca Raton this morning and walk away without a scratch. No spinning. No screaming. No “somebody do something.” She flew it in low and steady, set it down in the Atlantic, got herself out, and stood on the beach while the plane started sinking behind her like it was just another Tuesday. That’s what actual competence looks like. While half the country is busy arguing about feelings, safe spaces, and whose feelings got hurt on the internet, this woman just handled a life-or-death emergency with ice in her veins. No press conference. No excuses. No waiting for someone else to save her. Just skill, training, and the will to live. We’ve spent years softening people, telling them they’re fragile, that every problem is someone else’s fault, that the world should adjust to them. Then you see something like this and remember: real capability still exists. People who can stay calm when the engine quits and the water is coming up. People who don’t freeze. People who solve the problem in front of them instead of posting about it. That’s the energy we need more of in the cockpit, in the home, and in this country. Not more excuses. Not more helplessness. Actual competence. Respect to the pilot. She earned every bit of it.

WOW!! Young pilot ditches plane in the Atlantic off Boca… and just walks out. Competence is still alive. Just watched a young pilot put a single-engine plane into the water off Boca Raton this morning and walk away without a scratch. No spinning. No screaming. No “somebody do something.” She flew it in low and steady, set it down in the Atlantic, got herself out, and stood on the beach while the plane started sinking behind her like it was just another Tuesday. That’s what actual competence looks like. While half the country is busy arguing about feelings, safe spaces, and whose feelings got hurt on the internet, this woman just handled a life-or-death emergency with ice in her veins. No press conference. No excuses. No waiting for someone else to save her. Just skill, training, and the will to live. We’ve spent years softening people, telling them they’re fragile, that every problem is someone else’s fault, that the world should adjust to them. Then you see something like this and remember: real capability still exists. People who can stay calm when the engine quits and the water is coming up. People who don’t freeze. People who solve the problem in front of them instead of posting about it. That’s the energy we need more of in the cockpit, in the home, and in this country. Not more excuses. Not more helplessness. Actual competence. Respect to the pilot. She earned every bit of it.

AmericanPapaBear™

51,298 views • 14 days ago