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Why do babies “fake” cry? For the same reason they really cry: to communicate their needs and seek the love and attention of their caregivers. Occasionally you’ll see such behaviors described to as manipulative, with some even going so far as to suggest children’s fake cries are to be...

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Just because a cry is attention-seeking does not make it any less worthy of your attention. Young children use cries to communicate a wide variety of needs - often tapping into tears when they lack the verbal abilities to sufficiently express their needs/feelings. That doesn’t make these cries “fake.” Think of them, instead, as messages your child isn’t yet prepared to express otherwise. I can’t get enough of this little one, who takes the time to get comfortable and position herself properly on the floor before launching into her cry. It’s a great illustration of how a cry can be simultaneously planful and legitimate. So take heed. This sweet little one was shared to TT by moderndaystork.
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Just because a cry is attention-seeking does not make it any less worthy of your attention. Young children use cries to communicate a wide variety of needs - often tapping into tears when they lack the verbal abilities to sufficiently express their needs/feelings. That doesn’t make these cries “fake.” Think of them, instead, as messages your child isn’t yet prepared to express otherwise. I can’t get enough of this little one, who takes the time to get comfortable and position herself properly on the floor before launching into her cry. It’s a great illustration of how a cry can be simultaneously planful and legitimate. So take heed. This sweet little one was shared to TT by moderndaystork.

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Did you know that babies cry with an accent? This week I’ll be focusing on language acquisition during infancy. Yesterday we talked about how newborns enter the world already recognizing the distinct tones of their mothers’ voices, as well as the rhythms and patterns of what will become their native language. And that recognition is not only receptive (the language we hear and understand), but expressive (the language we speak). Which leads us to crying with accent. A study that compared the cries of French and German infants identified distinct patterns their cries - measured as early as the day after their births - that mirror the unique melodies (or prosody) of their native languages. The French infants ended their cries with a lilt that mirrored French, while German infants began their cries with intensity then dropped off at the end, mirroring the vocalizations of their German parents. It’s still more evidence that some basic forms of language learning are influenced by children’s experience (learning) in utero. When it comes to our earliest vocalizations, newborns rely heavily on cries - which often tend to be a bit screechier than they will become in time - alongside gurgles, grunts and squeaks (like those shown in the video here.) But in just a matter of weeks these basic sounds make way for a much broader array of vocalizations. We’ll look at a few of those tomorrow. This new arrival was shared to TT by
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Did you know that babies cry with an accent? This week I’ll be focusing on language acquisition during infancy. Yesterday we talked about how newborns enter the world already recognizing the distinct tones of their mothers’ voices, as well as the rhythms and patterns of what will become their native language. And that recognition is not only receptive (the language we hear and understand), but expressive (the language we speak). Which leads us to crying with accent. A study that compared the cries of French and German infants identified distinct patterns their cries - measured as early as the day after their births - that mirror the unique melodies (or prosody) of their native languages. The French infants ended their cries with a lilt that mirrored French, while German infants began their cries with intensity then dropped off at the end, mirroring the vocalizations of their German parents. It’s still more evidence that some basic forms of language learning are influenced by children’s experience (learning) in utero. When it comes to our earliest vocalizations, newborns rely heavily on cries - which often tend to be a bit screechier than they will become in time - alongside gurgles, grunts and squeaks (like those shown in the video here.) But in just a matter of weeks these basic sounds make way for a much broader array of vocalizations. We’ll look at a few of those tomorrow. This new arrival was shared to TT by

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“I love you!” By the start of the third trimester, your baby is beginning to absorb sound in the womb - with evidence suggesting they can both identify mom’s voice and the distinct rhythms and patterns of her native language at birth. Knowing that these are among our earliest learnings, don’t be surprised if your little one begins to mimic the musicality of certain words and phrases well before they explode into language near the end of the first year. In fact, this musicality or “prosody” is even displayed in your baby’s cries. That’s right: babies cry with an accent. With all this in mind, check out this little guy (shared to TT by bri_col44), who - at 3 months - sure appears to have said “I love you.” Developmentally, it’s probably a little early for the phrase to be associated with meaning (with our first communicative words typically emerging between 10-14 months), but amazing how well this little one matches mom’s phrasing, even as articulation and understanding are continuing to develop. It all a part of the amazing process of language development. And that’s not to even mention that smile! There’s truly nothing better.
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“I love you!” By the start of the third trimester, your baby is beginning to absorb sound in the womb - with evidence suggesting they can both identify mom’s voice and the distinct rhythms and patterns of her native language at birth. Knowing that these are among our earliest learnings, don’t be surprised if your little one begins to mimic the musicality of certain words and phrases well before they explode into language near the end of the first year. In fact, this musicality or “prosody” is even displayed in your baby’s cries. That’s right: babies cry with an accent. With all this in mind, check out this little guy (shared to TT by bri_col44), who - at 3 months - sure appears to have said “I love you.” Developmentally, it’s probably a little early for the phrase to be associated with meaning (with our first communicative words typically emerging between 10-14 months), but amazing how well this little one matches mom’s phrasing, even as articulation and understanding are continuing to develop. It all a part of the amazing process of language development. And that’s not to even mention that smile! There’s truly nothing better.

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32,254 Aufrufe • vor 1 Jahr

“Um, excuse me. I’m trying to cry here.” I just love this little one, whose efforts to convey her need for attention are rudely - and repeatedly - interrupted by the family dog. Babies cry for many different reasons - some more performative than others. Watch how our hero begins her vocalization repeatedly, each time putting her plans on hold until the floor - and mom’s undivided attention - are hers. It’s worth noting here that attention seeking is a perfectly legitimate reason for a cry at this age. Crying is an important tool for pre verbal children - and shouldn’t be ignored just because it seems premeditated. There’s something your little one is attempting to tell you - so don’t skimp on attention just because it’s being requested. In fact, just the opposite. —— This sweet little one was shared to TT by daynaalynn, who handled the whole situation both attentively and with good humor.
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“Um, excuse me. I’m trying to cry here.” I just love this little one, whose efforts to convey her need for attention are rudely - and repeatedly - interrupted by the family dog. Babies cry for many different reasons - some more performative than others. Watch how our hero begins her vocalization repeatedly, each time putting her plans on hold until the floor - and mom’s undivided attention - are hers. It’s worth noting here that attention seeking is a perfectly legitimate reason for a cry at this age. Crying is an important tool for pre verbal children - and shouldn’t be ignored just because it seems premeditated. There’s something your little one is attempting to tell you - so don’t skimp on attention just because it’s being requested. In fact, just the opposite. —— This sweet little one was shared to TT by daynaalynn, who handled the whole situation both attentively and with good humor.

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279,359 Aufrufe • vor 2 Jahren

Infant sleep can be such a tricky thing. Just as soon as you get reaccustomed to resting through the night, all of a sudden your baby reverts to waking multiple times a night. Welcome to the 8 month sleep regression. Interruptions in sleep patterns often coincide with the development of new skills and somewhere around 8 months you’re due for the biggest of them all. That’s because your baby is becoming mobile - and putting all the skills together to roll, crawl, and even pull to a stand in their crib. For infants this is a HUGE breakthrough. Imagine having spent your entire life mostly stationary, with your ability to pursue your own interests - or even adjust your view - subject to the whims of a caregiver. Somewhere between 6-9 months most babies begin discovering a host of new abilities. And let’s face it, some of them are a lot more entertaining than sleep. The good news (at 3am) is that the novelty here is temporary…but there are some important ways you can help your baby to navigate this period safely. Perhaps the most important one is illustrated in this video. And that’s adjusting the height of your child’s crib mattress to its lowest level. With newborns and immobile infants, it’s often convenient to elevate their mattress so they can be placed into and retrieved from the crib more easily. But when your baby begins pulling to a stand it’s critical that you lower their mattress to prevent accidental falls. Babies are top heavy and can easily go tumbling out without such adjustments. You may also find that your baby masters pulling to a stand faster than they master sitting back down - which can create a crib dilemma and a need for assistance. You can navigate through this phase more quickly by providing lots of wakeful practice in both standing and sitting, which may involve gently guiding your little one to bend their legs at the knee - or even placing an appealing toy on the ground near their feet to incentivize sitting back down. As for the sleep regression, it’ll be over before you know it. And while it can be frustrating in the middle of the night, think of it as a breakthrough. Your baby is reaching new developmental milestones - and about to go fully mobile. This sweet little guy was shared to IG by fesgheliha_.
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Infant sleep can be such a tricky thing. Just as soon as you get reaccustomed to resting through the night, all of a sudden your baby reverts to waking multiple times a night. Welcome to the 8 month sleep regression. Interruptions in sleep patterns often coincide with the development of new skills and somewhere around 8 months you’re due for the biggest of them all. That’s because your baby is becoming mobile - and putting all the skills together to roll, crawl, and even pull to a stand in their crib. For infants this is a HUGE breakthrough. Imagine having spent your entire life mostly stationary, with your ability to pursue your own interests - or even adjust your view - subject to the whims of a caregiver. Somewhere between 6-9 months most babies begin discovering a host of new abilities. And let’s face it, some of them are a lot more entertaining than sleep. The good news (at 3am) is that the novelty here is temporary…but there are some important ways you can help your baby to navigate this period safely. Perhaps the most important one is illustrated in this video. And that’s adjusting the height of your child’s crib mattress to its lowest level. With newborns and immobile infants, it’s often convenient to elevate their mattress so they can be placed into and retrieved from the crib more easily. But when your baby begins pulling to a stand it’s critical that you lower their mattress to prevent accidental falls. Babies are top heavy and can easily go tumbling out without such adjustments. You may also find that your baby masters pulling to a stand faster than they master sitting back down - which can create a crib dilemma and a need for assistance. You can navigate through this phase more quickly by providing lots of wakeful practice in both standing and sitting, which may involve gently guiding your little one to bend their legs at the knee - or even placing an appealing toy on the ground near their feet to incentivize sitting back down. As for the sleep regression, it’ll be over before you know it. And while it can be frustrating in the middle of the night, think of it as a breakthrough. Your baby is reaching new developmental milestones - and about to go fully mobile. This sweet little guy was shared to IG by fesgheliha_.

Dan Wuori

129,739 Aufrufe • vor 2 Jahren

Learning is something you and your baby do together. You can think of the process as happening in three distinct stages, during which skills are transferred gradually from you to your little one: During the first stage, your baby is observing the behavior and skills of others. During the second, they begin to emulate these behaviors - and can find success with the support of a helpful adult (you) or more expert peer (often a sibling). And gradually they internalize these skills and perform them all by themselves. This video is a great example of the shared second phase. Infants explore the world with their mouths. But an important lesson of toddlerhood is that some things are for putting in our mouths, while others are not. This little one knows that we don’t eat the Play-Doh. But it sure is tempting! Watch as he breaks off a piece and brings it to his mouth. As he does his eyes lift and he realizes that Mom is watching - which alone prompts some introspection. He grins broadly, shakes his head and exclaims “No, no, no” - using Mom’s past words to affirm his decision to place the Play-Doh back on the table. Left to his own devices, who knows? But together, without exchanging a word, he managed to make the right choice. As a parent it’s important to remember the key role you play in the learning process. And that extends to your child’s behavior. Self-regulation begins as co-regulation. So be there. This sweet little guy was shared to IG by parentosa.
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Learning is something you and your baby do together. You can think of the process as happening in three distinct stages, during which skills are transferred gradually from you to your little one: During the first stage, your baby is observing the behavior and skills of others. During the second, they begin to emulate these behaviors - and can find success with the support of a helpful adult (you) or more expert peer (often a sibling). And gradually they internalize these skills and perform them all by themselves. This video is a great example of the shared second phase. Infants explore the world with their mouths. But an important lesson of toddlerhood is that some things are for putting in our mouths, while others are not. This little one knows that we don’t eat the Play-Doh. But it sure is tempting! Watch as he breaks off a piece and brings it to his mouth. As he does his eyes lift and he realizes that Mom is watching - which alone prompts some introspection. He grins broadly, shakes his head and exclaims “No, no, no” - using Mom’s past words to affirm his decision to place the Play-Doh back on the table. Left to his own devices, who knows? But together, without exchanging a word, he managed to make the right choice. As a parent it’s important to remember the key role you play in the learning process. And that extends to your child’s behavior. Self-regulation begins as co-regulation. So be there. This sweet little guy was shared to IG by parentosa.

Dan Wuori

75,169 Aufrufe • vor 2 Jahren

Why is my baby screaming? The answer may just be: Because they can. As newborns, babies rely heavily on a limited vocal repertoire of cries, coos, and gurgles. But as they begin approaching six months, they begin to experiment with a whole new array of sounds. We call this vocal play. Put simply, it’s a process through which infants experiment with their voices (and mouths) and begin learning to mimic many of the component sounds that will later make up their formal speech. This includes most any sound that can be made with the mouth, from screams, to growls, to blowing raspberries. Check out this little guy as he delights in his newly discovered screech. He’s not in distress, as his broad smile lets us know. Instead he’s just trying out the cool new trick he can do with his mouth. Of course screams can relay pain and fear as well, but rest assured that not EVERY scream is a “scream.” Some are just fun experiments. This playful little guy was shared to TT by steviemoriah.
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Why is my baby screaming? The answer may just be: Because they can. As newborns, babies rely heavily on a limited vocal repertoire of cries, coos, and gurgles. But as they begin approaching six months, they begin to experiment with a whole new array of sounds. We call this vocal play. Put simply, it’s a process through which infants experiment with their voices (and mouths) and begin learning to mimic many of the component sounds that will later make up their formal speech. This includes most any sound that can be made with the mouth, from screams, to growls, to blowing raspberries. Check out this little guy as he delights in his newly discovered screech. He’s not in distress, as his broad smile lets us know. Instead he’s just trying out the cool new trick he can do with his mouth. Of course screams can relay pain and fear as well, but rest assured that not EVERY scream is a “scream.” Some are just fun experiments. This playful little guy was shared to TT by steviemoriah.

Dan Wuori

120,266 Aufrufe • vor 2 Jahren

Baby talk vs “parentese” - what’s the difference? Often in my replies I see parents explaining why - as a method of promoting language acquisition - they never use “baby talk.” I generally agree with this sentiment, but there are some important distinctions to be made here. If by “baby talk” you mean using cutesy nonsense words (like wa-wa for water or ba-ba for bottle) you’re on the right track. There’s no need for you to make up incorrect or overly simplified vocabulary on your child’s behalf. Use real words, even if your child isn’t quite ready to do so themself. It’s how they learn. But sometimes I see confusion between “baby talk” and what is known as “motherese” or “parentese” - which isn’t nonsensical, but simply slower and more varied in intonation. (Think of Ms. Rachel’s sing-songy voice.) And this isn’t something you need to shy away from at all. In fact, research suggests that parentese - with its prolonged vowel sounds and expressive facial expressions - can be a social hook that attracts children’s attention, encouraging them to attune not only to the language to which they are being exposed but how it is produced. Importantly, it’s complete and grammatically correct… just a little more performative than you might use elsewhere. This lovely video, shared to IG by tommypadula, is a nice example. Everything mom says is 100% correct… it’s simply exaggerated in ways that are clearly capturing her daughter’s rapt attention. Just look at the smiles and eye contact it’s attracting. This isn’t baby talk. It’s parentese. And it’s fantastic.
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Baby talk vs “parentese” - what’s the difference? Often in my replies I see parents explaining why - as a method of promoting language acquisition - they never use “baby talk.” I generally agree with this sentiment, but there are some important distinctions to be made here. If by “baby talk” you mean using cutesy nonsense words (like wa-wa for water or ba-ba for bottle) you’re on the right track. There’s no need for you to make up incorrect or overly simplified vocabulary on your child’s behalf. Use real words, even if your child isn’t quite ready to do so themself. It’s how they learn. But sometimes I see confusion between “baby talk” and what is known as “motherese” or “parentese” - which isn’t nonsensical, but simply slower and more varied in intonation. (Think of Ms. Rachel’s sing-songy voice.) And this isn’t something you need to shy away from at all. In fact, research suggests that parentese - with its prolonged vowel sounds and expressive facial expressions - can be a social hook that attracts children’s attention, encouraging them to attune not only to the language to which they are being exposed but how it is produced. Importantly, it’s complete and grammatically correct… just a little more performative than you might use elsewhere. This lovely video, shared to IG by tommypadula, is a nice example. Everything mom says is 100% correct… it’s simply exaggerated in ways that are clearly capturing her daughter’s rapt attention. Just look at the smiles and eye contact it’s attracting. This isn’t baby talk. It’s parentese. And it’s fantastic.

Dan Wuori

28,721 Aufrufe • vor 10 Monaten

It never fails. After months of late night feedings and short bursts of sleep, your baby FINALLY begins sleeping through the night… only to begin waking again. What gives? What you’re experiencing is a sleep regression… a small setback in sleep continuity often associated with big breakthroughs in development. As your baby grows as a language user, for example, you may find that they discover 3am is a great time to practice all their new skills. This happy little guy, shared to TT by em_suttles, is a great example. He’s unlocked a cool new vocal trick (at 5 months) and he’s ready to put it to work. While it may not yet look like it, he’s on his way to spoken language. Even more pronounced regressions can coincide with major motor milestones. As your baby learns to sit, roll over, crawl and pull to a stand, their nighttime options in the crib become far more varied. And the temptation to practice them can be strong. The good news is that these sleep regressions are typically pretty short lived. So, bleary-eyed though you may be, do your best to celebrate them for what they are: markers of big steps forward in your child’s development.
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It never fails. After months of late night feedings and short bursts of sleep, your baby FINALLY begins sleeping through the night… only to begin waking again. What gives? What you’re experiencing is a sleep regression… a small setback in sleep continuity often associated with big breakthroughs in development. As your baby grows as a language user, for example, you may find that they discover 3am is a great time to practice all their new skills. This happy little guy, shared to TT by em_suttles, is a great example. He’s unlocked a cool new vocal trick (at 5 months) and he’s ready to put it to work. While it may not yet look like it, he’s on his way to spoken language. Even more pronounced regressions can coincide with major motor milestones. As your baby learns to sit, roll over, crawl and pull to a stand, their nighttime options in the crib become far more varied. And the temptation to practice them can be strong. The good news is that these sleep regressions are typically pretty short lived. So, bleary-eyed though you may be, do your best to celebrate them for what they are: markers of big steps forward in your child’s development.

Dan Wuori

37,881 Aufrufe • vor 10 Monaten

Your baby craves your attention and affection. 😍 Check out this little guy. Mom has plopped him onto the bed. His mission: Wake up Dad. But our hero has other plans. Rather than speak, he assesses the situation, curls up next to his father, and pulls his arm into position for a cuddle. In this moment, there could be nothing better than the feel of his father’s love. _____ Sometimes children’s behaviors are dismissed - or even disparaged - as “attention seeking.” While they may be just that, know that your baby NEEDS your attention. And craves your affection. These are never gifts to be withheld from an infant. Your time, your interest, your interaction are all critical to your baby’s healthy development. And to your mutual attachment. So give them without reservation and watch the results. This sweet interaction was shared to IG by louise.thompson.
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Your baby craves your attention and affection. 😍 Check out this little guy. Mom has plopped him onto the bed. His mission: Wake up Dad. But our hero has other plans. Rather than speak, he assesses the situation, curls up next to his father, and pulls his arm into position for a cuddle. In this moment, there could be nothing better than the feel of his father’s love. _____ Sometimes children’s behaviors are dismissed - or even disparaged - as “attention seeking.” While they may be just that, know that your baby NEEDS your attention. And craves your affection. These are never gifts to be withheld from an infant. Your time, your interest, your interaction are all critical to your baby’s healthy development. And to your mutual attachment. So give them without reservation and watch the results. This sweet interaction was shared to IG by louise.thompson.

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4,216,068 Aufrufe • vor 2 Jahren

Looking for the perfect holiday gift for your baby? How about a “face book?” I’ve written often about how much infants love the faces of their loved ones. Indeed, we’re biologically driven from birth to distinguish - and study - the faces that matter most. That’s because, as infants, the faces of our primary caregivers teach us lessons about everything from our safety to how language works. The brain has specific structures that help us to detect and distinguish between specific faces, including the fusiform face area, a part of the visual system specialized for this very task. I’ll have more to say about holiday gift giving soon (spoiler alert: for little ones, developmentally, less is more) but really love the idea of a baby friendly (soft) photo album - which offers not only a glimpse of their favorite sight, but a chance to see significant faces that they may or may not encounter each day (such as grandparents and other extended family). There are tons of them on the market. Look for something safe and soft.. and stock it only with duplicate photos you’ll be ok with sustaining the kind of wear and tear that babies are so skilled at providing. This lovely video was shared to IG by thesabrinatan.
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Looking for the perfect holiday gift for your baby? How about a “face book?” I’ve written often about how much infants love the faces of their loved ones. Indeed, we’re biologically driven from birth to distinguish - and study - the faces that matter most. That’s because, as infants, the faces of our primary caregivers teach us lessons about everything from our safety to how language works. The brain has specific structures that help us to detect and distinguish between specific faces, including the fusiform face area, a part of the visual system specialized for this very task. I’ll have more to say about holiday gift giving soon (spoiler alert: for little ones, developmentally, less is more) but really love the idea of a baby friendly (soft) photo album - which offers not only a glimpse of their favorite sight, but a chance to see significant faces that they may or may not encounter each day (such as grandparents and other extended family). There are tons of them on the market. Look for something safe and soft.. and stock it only with duplicate photos you’ll be ok with sustaining the kind of wear and tear that babies are so skilled at providing. This lovely video was shared to IG by thesabrinatan.

Dan Wuori

97,464 Aufrufe • vor 1 Jahr

And “ah-choo” to you too! As a new parent you won’t have to wait long for signs that your baby is watching and mimicking you. It’s all a part of their earliest objective: learning how to be just like you. Witness this 4-month-old as she returns dad’s feigned sneeze. She doesn’t yet have the articulation down to mimic his sound with accuracy, but there’s little question she’s mirroring dad’s actions. It’s an important reminder that your baby is always watching, listening, and learning - so never assume they are too young to be absorbing your actions, words, or the media you may be exposing them to (even in the background). 🎥 via Babies Fun on FB.
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And “ah-choo” to you too! As a new parent you won’t have to wait long for signs that your baby is watching and mimicking you. It’s all a part of their earliest objective: learning how to be just like you. Witness this 4-month-old as she returns dad’s feigned sneeze. She doesn’t yet have the articulation down to mimic his sound with accuracy, but there’s little question she’s mirroring dad’s actions. It’s an important reminder that your baby is always watching, listening, and learning - so never assume they are too young to be absorbing your actions, words, or the media you may be exposing them to (even in the background). 🎥 via Babies Fun on FB.

Dan Wuori

34,753 Aufrufe • vor 1 Jahr

How long should my baby use a pacifier? I get this question a lot and it’s a tough one - both because there isn’t a single correct answer and because (like feeding and sleep) the topic brings out lots of strong opinions. But if you ask me, the family in this video has the right idea. Infants are born with a strong sucking reflex and pacifiers can help them to soothe and sleep. There’s even some evidence to suggest that sleeping with pacifiers might reduce the risk of Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS). In short: for babies (up to a year), I’m a big fan. But it’s not uncommon to see children with pacifiers well into toddlerhood, and in some cases, even beyond. And here I’d raise some important cautions. Children who rely heavily on pacifiers may be more prone to middle ear infections. And dentists note that prolonged pacifier use can affect your child’s teeth and create bite issues. Perhaps most importantly is their potential to impact expressive language development. Your child’s ability to speak is an important one. After a point, language shapes not only the content of our thinking, but the very structure of our cognition. By otherwise occupying the mouth over long periods of time, pacifiers may slow language development by limiting opportunities for expression. Speaking with a pacifier in the mouth can also lead to distortion of speech sounds (even when they aren’t in the mouth). All told, I’m an advocate for beginning to wean off of pacifiers at around a year of age - which is why this video spoke to me. We see an infant appropriately using one and big sister demonstrating her expressive language, her mouth unencumbered and free to chatter away happily. The transition can be difficult - but not nearly as challenging as for a child who has become dependent over a period of years. Do/did you use pacifiers with your child? Why or why not? How did you help transition away from their use? This sweet siblings were shared to IG by _lullabye_luxuries_.
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How long should my baby use a pacifier? I get this question a lot and it’s a tough one - both because there isn’t a single correct answer and because (like feeding and sleep) the topic brings out lots of strong opinions. But if you ask me, the family in this video has the right idea. Infants are born with a strong sucking reflex and pacifiers can help them to soothe and sleep. There’s even some evidence to suggest that sleeping with pacifiers might reduce the risk of Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS). In short: for babies (up to a year), I’m a big fan. But it’s not uncommon to see children with pacifiers well into toddlerhood, and in some cases, even beyond. And here I’d raise some important cautions. Children who rely heavily on pacifiers may be more prone to middle ear infections. And dentists note that prolonged pacifier use can affect your child’s teeth and create bite issues. Perhaps most importantly is their potential to impact expressive language development. Your child’s ability to speak is an important one. After a point, language shapes not only the content of our thinking, but the very structure of our cognition. By otherwise occupying the mouth over long periods of time, pacifiers may slow language development by limiting opportunities for expression. Speaking with a pacifier in the mouth can also lead to distortion of speech sounds (even when they aren’t in the mouth). All told, I’m an advocate for beginning to wean off of pacifiers at around a year of age - which is why this video spoke to me. We see an infant appropriately using one and big sister demonstrating her expressive language, her mouth unencumbered and free to chatter away happily. The transition can be difficult - but not nearly as challenging as for a child who has become dependent over a period of years. Do/did you use pacifiers with your child? Why or why not? How did you help transition away from their use? This sweet siblings were shared to IG by _lullabye_luxuries_.

Dan Wuori

157,980 Aufrufe • vor 2 Jahren

Bitter tears and painful cries are the natural traits of Egbere ('Bush Baby') - So shall it be for all those who have consecrated their waking hours to your ruin. May all who have taken your downfall as their duty witness agonizing tears and devastating cries as their natural inheritance. The vulture that circles a man not destined to fall only exhausts itself. Good Morning Severally...
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Bitter tears and painful cries are the natural traits of Egbere ('Bush Baby') - So shall it be for all those who have consecrated their waking hours to your ruin. May all who have taken your downfall as their duty witness agonizing tears and devastating cries as their natural inheritance. The vulture that circles a man not destined to fall only exhausts itself. Good Morning Severally...

LEGENDARY J.O.E

10,147 Aufrufe • vor 3 Monaten

Your baby thrives on predictability. Specifically, yours. This week I’ve been talking about attachment, which holds long lasting consequences for your child’s mental and physical health (not to mention their cognitive development). Secure attachments in infancy occur when parents’ interactions with their babies are: Warm. Responsive. Safe. And consistently so. I’ve shared lots of important tips in the past. Tips on reading to your child. Tips on play. Tips on language development. But I want to be clear that attachment has nothing to do with the number of toys or books in your home. Or how well you interact most of the time. Attachment is a product of your predictability. It’s how you interact EVERY time. It’s what you teach your child to expect from you as their caregiver. Inconsistency in the way adults interact with children - warm and responsive one day and potentially cold and distracted the next - is detrimental to secure attachment. When children don’t know what to expect from day to day, it creates anxiety. And this activates the body’s stress response systems. Continually. This is one reason that it’s so important for parents to thoughtfully manage their own stress, exhaustion, safety, and mental health needs. When you aren’t at your best for yourself, you likely won’t be at your best for your baby. As an aside, consistency is also why I’ve spoken out about viral social media trends that undermine trust and predictability by inserting chaotic behaviors into the parent-child relationship. Several months ago - if you can believe it - it was unexpectedly cracking open an egg on your child’s forehead. This week it seems to be throwing slices of American cheese at/onto your baby’s head/face. (I wish I was making this up.) While it’s easy for us as to dismiss such behaviors as jokes, to young children they are detrimental for precisely the reason some adults may find them funny: they’re unexpected. But when your otherwise kind and attentive parent randomly acts with callousness - if even for a moment - it breaks a stable pattern. It provides a new data point that suggests you may be warm and caring… but also may not be dependably. And this is precisely what undermines attachment. (The good news is that an otherwise stable attachment is unlikely to be permanently disrupted by one dumb mistake. We all make them. Still… don’t. Just don’t.) Be kind, be responsive, and do it predictably. I’ll never share the kind of videos I described above. In their place, enjoy this warm and secure interaction between storyoferica (IG) and her happy little one.
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Your baby thrives on predictability. Specifically, yours. This week I’ve been talking about attachment, which holds long lasting consequences for your child’s mental and physical health (not to mention their cognitive development). Secure attachments in infancy occur when parents’ interactions with their babies are: Warm. Responsive. Safe. And consistently so. I’ve shared lots of important tips in the past. Tips on reading to your child. Tips on play. Tips on language development. But I want to be clear that attachment has nothing to do with the number of toys or books in your home. Or how well you interact most of the time. Attachment is a product of your predictability. It’s how you interact EVERY time. It’s what you teach your child to expect from you as their caregiver. Inconsistency in the way adults interact with children - warm and responsive one day and potentially cold and distracted the next - is detrimental to secure attachment. When children don’t know what to expect from day to day, it creates anxiety. And this activates the body’s stress response systems. Continually. This is one reason that it’s so important for parents to thoughtfully manage their own stress, exhaustion, safety, and mental health needs. When you aren’t at your best for yourself, you likely won’t be at your best for your baby. As an aside, consistency is also why I’ve spoken out about viral social media trends that undermine trust and predictability by inserting chaotic behaviors into the parent-child relationship. Several months ago - if you can believe it - it was unexpectedly cracking open an egg on your child’s forehead. This week it seems to be throwing slices of American cheese at/onto your baby’s head/face. (I wish I was making this up.) While it’s easy for us as to dismiss such behaviors as jokes, to young children they are detrimental for precisely the reason some adults may find them funny: they’re unexpected. But when your otherwise kind and attentive parent randomly acts with callousness - if even for a moment - it breaks a stable pattern. It provides a new data point that suggests you may be warm and caring… but also may not be dependably. And this is precisely what undermines attachment. (The good news is that an otherwise stable attachment is unlikely to be permanently disrupted by one dumb mistake. We all make them. Still… don’t. Just don’t.) Be kind, be responsive, and do it predictably. I’ll never share the kind of videos I described above. In their place, enjoy this warm and secure interaction between storyoferica (IG) and her happy little one.

Dan Wuori

169,524 Aufrufe • vor 1 Jahr

"wait until 5 & 6. At least for me, i'm kind of a gooey, romantic when it comes to all that stuff. That's where the real acting and the real person-on-person moments and the real grit of it comes out." starting with the physical intimacy, and they're really about to dive in deeper even in the real, emotional intimacy. Especially with Ilya, that means so much, cause he's about to take down all of his defenses and just be his most vulnerable, his most honest self with Shane. No more "that means nothing" when deep down, he always felt it, those moments with Shane always meant everything, cause he is fucking in love with this man. And he's about to confess that, even if he already did but this time, Shane will hear it in his language... Cause this needs to be out. The cottage is gonna be the whole turning point of their life I AM NOT OKAY 😭 #heatedrivalry
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"wait until 5 & 6. At least for me, i'm kind of a gooey, romantic when it comes to all that stuff. That's where the real acting and the real person-on-person moments and the real grit of it comes out." starting with the physical intimacy, and they're really about to dive in deeper even in the real, emotional intimacy. Especially with Ilya, that means so much, cause he's about to take down all of his defenses and just be his most vulnerable, his most honest self with Shane. No more "that means nothing" when deep down, he always felt it, those moments with Shane always meant everything, cause he is fucking in love with this man. And he's about to confess that, even if he already did but this time, Shane will hear it in his language... Cause this needs to be out. The cottage is gonna be the whole turning point of their life I AM NOT OKAY 😭 #heatedrivalry

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102,838 Aufrufe • vor 6 Monaten

It’s tough to be a baby. As newborns, infants are dependent on adults in so many ways. They aren’t mobile, are limited in their ability to express their needs, and (in the earliest stages, at least) lack the motor skills to even direct their gaze. But toddlerhood changes all of that. Equipped with more sophisticated language, motor, and cognitive skills, a whole new world opens up to them. And with this comes a powerful desire for agency. Agency relates to the ability to make choices and act on one’s own desires… to take charge. Parents can avoid a whole host of conflicts by leaning into this desire for decision making authority. That doesn’t mean anything goes, of course. But where you can find opportunity to allow your child to make his/her own decisions, it’s well worth the effort. And this dad has the process down pat - allowing our hero (who just celebrated her first birthday) to select a book from a limited number of choices. Does it take a little longer? Sure. But it helps children to grow as independent decision makers in safe and appropriate ways. And that’s magic. This precious little decision maker was shared to TT by melissa.r.hicks.
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It’s tough to be a baby. As newborns, infants are dependent on adults in so many ways. They aren’t mobile, are limited in their ability to express their needs, and (in the earliest stages, at least) lack the motor skills to even direct their gaze. But toddlerhood changes all of that. Equipped with more sophisticated language, motor, and cognitive skills, a whole new world opens up to them. And with this comes a powerful desire for agency. Agency relates to the ability to make choices and act on one’s own desires… to take charge. Parents can avoid a whole host of conflicts by leaning into this desire for decision making authority. That doesn’t mean anything goes, of course. But where you can find opportunity to allow your child to make his/her own decisions, it’s well worth the effort. And this dad has the process down pat - allowing our hero (who just celebrated her first birthday) to select a book from a limited number of choices. Does it take a little longer? Sure. But it helps children to grow as independent decision makers in safe and appropriate ways. And that’s magic. This precious little decision maker was shared to TT by melissa.r.hicks.

Dan Wuori

225,883 Aufrufe • vor 1 Jahr

Want your child to take an interest in literacy? Remember that in child development you reap what you sow. Daily reading (ideally configured face-to-face) is a wonderful way to plant the seeds of language and literacy with your baby from their earliest days. Not only will reading together substantially boost your child’s vocabulary over time, but it illustrates a powerful lesson: this is something YOU value and enjoy. And as I’ve written a thousand times, your baby wants nothing more than to be just like you. Don’t be discouraged as you get started. Infants have very short attention spans and will initially spend more time attuned to you than the book (hence the face to face), and may seek to explore books first with their mouths (which is why sturdy, laminated board books are a great first choice). Don’t let any of this deter you. Start small. But start. And make reading a part of your daily routine. As this lovely video shared to IG by sophia.s.playroom illustrates, the benefits can be huge.
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Want your child to take an interest in literacy? Remember that in child development you reap what you sow. Daily reading (ideally configured face-to-face) is a wonderful way to plant the seeds of language and literacy with your baby from their earliest days. Not only will reading together substantially boost your child’s vocabulary over time, but it illustrates a powerful lesson: this is something YOU value and enjoy. And as I’ve written a thousand times, your baby wants nothing more than to be just like you. Don’t be discouraged as you get started. Infants have very short attention spans and will initially spend more time attuned to you than the book (hence the face to face), and may seek to explore books first with their mouths (which is why sturdy, laminated board books are a great first choice). Don’t let any of this deter you. Start small. But start. And make reading a part of your daily routine. As this lovely video shared to IG by sophia.s.playroom illustrates, the benefits can be huge.

Dan Wuori

41,023 Aufrufe • vor 1 Jahr

When it comes to new siblings the gulf between expectations and reality can be pretty stark. The reality is that newborns are often significantly less “fun” than billed to their toddler and preschool-aged siblings. Instead of an instant playmate and best friend, newborns require a great deal of parental care, energy, and attention. They mostly eat and sleep, which can be a bit of a letdown. I just love this new big brother, shared to IG by _jennapierce. He’s so enthusiastic… and ready for his newborn sibling to wake up and interact - even trying out the whole “got your nose” prank to get his attention (without avail). Rest assured, that time will come, little buddy! Parents can help to ease the transition by teaching siblings about newborn care and establishing realistic expectations from the get go. (“He’ll be so much fun to play with when he gets a little older, but at first he’s going to be very tiny and sleepy. We’ll need to be very gentle and you can help teach him how to talk! He won’t be ready to talk back at first, but he’s going to be listening very carefully.”) What a sweet moment to capture on video. These two are going to be best of friends.
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When it comes to new siblings the gulf between expectations and reality can be pretty stark. The reality is that newborns are often significantly less “fun” than billed to their toddler and preschool-aged siblings. Instead of an instant playmate and best friend, newborns require a great deal of parental care, energy, and attention. They mostly eat and sleep, which can be a bit of a letdown. I just love this new big brother, shared to IG by _jennapierce. He’s so enthusiastic… and ready for his newborn sibling to wake up and interact - even trying out the whole “got your nose” prank to get his attention (without avail). Rest assured, that time will come, little buddy! Parents can help to ease the transition by teaching siblings about newborn care and establishing realistic expectations from the get go. (“He’ll be so much fun to play with when he gets a little older, but at first he’s going to be very tiny and sleepy. We’ll need to be very gentle and you can help teach him how to talk! He won’t be ready to talk back at first, but he’s going to be listening very carefully.”) What a sweet moment to capture on video. These two are going to be best of friends.

Dan Wuori

72,227 Aufrufe • vor 1 Jahr