Chase Hughes drops the wildest self-improvement hack: Become so self-forgiving it’s almost delusional. “Most people look back with regret and shame… Get so forgiving of everything you’ve ever done that it’s like delusional to the point where it’s just crazy. You get to a point where everything is fine... and it’s just hilarious. If you do that, your ability to stay in the present and not get stuck in the past will 10x overnight.” Clip from this 39-second mind-flip — radical self-forgiveness as the fastest path to actually enjoying the moment. Have you ever tried forgiving yourself so hard it felt ridiculous… and suddenly the past lost its grip? Your experience — drop it below 👇show more

This is called Radical Self Acceptance — and it becomes even more powerful with a clear process: See it → Own it → Forgive it → Learn from it → Accept it with gratitude. The guilt is the illusion. The mistake was just a teacher. I take it one step further — I try to say thank you the moment a challenge arrives, before I even know what it’s here to teach me. Just a quiet: “I don’t fully understand this yet, but I trust it’s here to help me grow.” That one shift changes everything. You stop resisting and start receiving. The present moment opens up and suddenly there’s room to actually learn. 🙏

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This is only good if the forgiveness flows from Jesus Christ, who not only forgives, but empowers us through the Holy Spirit to REPENT, which doesn't mean to hate ourselves but to change and make amends. Without Christ, this is just a very convenient way to excuse the inexcusable.

Also known as being a toddler. Unbelievably destructive in an adult relationship. Yes, it can work if you never forget the lesson but way too many people are incapable of remembering the lesson. To make this work, the person has to change their habits (permanently) and generally people don’t. Grow up first, feel the pain as that is how humans learn, and only when you know you aren’t doing the same (or similar behaviour/habit) then you can forgive yourself.

A Christian take on this is that God's forgiveness allows us to forget what lies behind and press forward to what lies ahead (Philippians 3:13).

So if you raped someone, just forgive yourself! Amazing! It's actually "hilarious". Brilliant. So easy. Nothing like living detached from reality in "delusion". What's the point of Life? Are we here to embrace reality or escape it?

*Source The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett Episode: "The Leading Body Language & Behaviour Expert: Manipulation..." Dec 26, 2024 · Clip Starts at 2:00:17 Full episode ↓

This example is not very specific or instructive.

sounds like a psycho talking

If this is true, is this what ancient people figured out and what Jesus also represents? Complete forgiveness?

Well its very simple to dumb it down, why are you upset over what happened any further than yesterday when you’ve been given the opportunity to see what you can do better today.

This is true! Biblically, Love the Lord your God with all your heart, and Love your neighbor as yourself (Mark 12:31). You have to love yourself (in Christ's forgiveness and live in His righteousness) before you can love others. This is a MAJOR secret to peace and joy.

Currently undergoing this exact same thing. Must be a natural part of aging to do a life review while you’re still alive.

thief on the cross playe the hate game then wised up played hey Jesus that salvation thing immortality thing does that apply , even to me

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This applies to ppl who are basically good but beat themselves up for minor things or big things that were out of their control or mistakes that they are truly sorry for. I know too many terrible people who easily justify their terrible actions. They are legion &have power& money

I'm not so sure that this is great advice to be giving people, but Chase Hughes doesn't seem to be very concerned with what's good for society. Having a great financial quarter doesn't make up for how much harm one person can do with this mentality.

Sociopaths think like that

Great stuff, ty.

Substantial evidence supports the claim that Chase Hughes has lied about or grossly exaggerated his military past, experiences, credentials, and expertise. Multiple independent investigations (including by a former CIA officer and a behavior analyst) have compared his public statements to verifiable records and found clear discrepancies. This isn't minor embellishment—it's a pattern that undermines his "government brainwashing/interrogation expert" persona. Claimed Background vs. Reality Military Service (the core issue): Hughes repeatedly describes 20 years in the U.S. Navy (retiring ~2019) as an interrogation specialist, psy-ops expert, human behavior analyst, and trainer for top intelligence agencies. He claims he developed tools like the "6MX system" (gold standard for tradecraft), had top-secret clearance to improve intel after the USS Cole attack, taught "ethical brainwashing" and persuasion to elite operators, attended interrogation/SERE schools, and tied his entire behavior work to official military/intel roles. Actual record (from his released OMPF service file): He was a Quartermaster (QMC rating)—a navigation/ship operations and maintenance role. Duties included basic seamanship, boat docking, harbor work, underwater drone platoon management, and some jail-guard shifts (locking doors, feeding prisoners, paperwork). He reached Chief Petty Officer late in his career and was medically discharged (heart issues). No intel, interrogation, psychology, or behavior-related duties whatsoever. People who served with him confirm this. No evidence of the claimed schools, clearance for psy-ops, or official training roles. Ex-CIA HUMINT veteran Kent Clizbe (who previously exposed real frauds like Wayne Simmons) calls this "stolen valor-adjacent"—Hughes implies elite operator experience while his record shows mundane non-intel work. He never had access to the high-level ops he describes. Education & Early "Expertise": Claims Harvard neuroscience/neuro-endocrinology education (sometimes "Harvard-educated neuroscientist") + Duke Medical Neuroscience, plus Government Leadership certification. Reality: Short paid executive courses or certificates at best (e.g., a continuing-ed Harvard program anyone can buy into). No full degrees or formal neuroscience training. His hypnotherapy certs are entry-level and open to anyone. Pre-2010s, he was selling a pick-up artist book (The Passport, 2007) and a supplement (RedShift/"Neuridium") with false claims it was used by "all branches of the U.S. Armed Forces" and had "international recognition." No evidence he was a known behavior expert until podcasts boosted him in the late 2010s. His "Behavioral Table of Elements" and other systems have zero independent verification of government/FBI adoption.

Really there are only 2 choices. Forgive yourself to move forward cleanly, or keep repeating the fear of repeating the mistake in your head. I have embarrasing moments reappear occasionally. I think it's a fear of repeating the mistake.

This has been so helpful for me. In my case, it’s asking God for forgiveness and then believing that, to paraphrase scripture, if confess my sins, He forgives them. Point blank. This does involve true repentance though,so it’s believing that I am changing for the positive as well

It sounds like narcissistic behavior actually.

I'm really not sure about this guy.

This is wonderful, but may I suggest that you try and include that you are not just forgiving yourself, which may seem a coping skill/ psychological reset, but that God truly does forgive each of us our shortcomings, and loves us despite, and maybe because, of them.

He says to do this to the point that it’s “almost delusional.” But then, he throws out the qualifier, saying, “It’s delusional.” We may trick our egos, but reality keeps the score, and unconscious dissonance will manifest in surprising and damaging ways. Yes, “It’s crazy.”

Thank you

Haha. Pretty cool.

It helps to remember the nazis who love demons are out ta getcha so all things considered yr kinda smashing it !

Hahahaha 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣I’ll give that a try…. Lol. 💜💖

Treat yourself like your own mother would. Forgive everything. You didn't know any better. Now you do.

Radical self-forgiveness works not because the past deserves it but because the shame was never processing the event - it was just replaying it.

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