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Chris Williamson dropped a hard truth on Joe Rogan: If you actually change your life for the better, you might have to let go of your friends. And if you keep growing… you’ll probably have to do it multiple times. You finally find your people after the lonely phase, then realize you’ve outgrown them too. That repeated loneliness is exactly why most people stay stuck — the comfort of old friends is a powerful anchor. Real growth isn’t just about discipline or goals. It’s often about relationships. The circle around you either lifts you or holds you back. This one stings because I’ve lived it. Those seasons of walking away are painful, but staying the same is worse. Have you ever had to leave behind a friend group because you were growing in a different direction?
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Chris Williamson dropped a hard truth on Joe Rogan: If you actually change your life for the better, you might have to let go of your friends. And if you keep growing… you’ll probably have to do it multiple times. You finally find your people after the lonely phase, then realize you’ve outgrown them too. That repeated loneliness is exactly why most people stay stuck — the comfort of old friends is a powerful anchor. Real growth isn’t just about discipline or goals. It’s often about relationships. The circle around you either lifts you or holds you back. This one stings because I’ve lived it. Those seasons of walking away are painful, but staying the same is worse. Have you ever had to leave behind a friend group because you were growing in a different direction?

Camus

393,098 次观看 • 4 个月前

Chris Williamson explained to Joe Rogan what he calls "The Lonely Chapter." "The Rocky montage was 3.5 minutes. For me it's been 5 years." "Everybody that has gotten from a place where they don't want to be to one where they are... there's a point where they're so different that they can't resonate with their old set of friends. But they're not yet sufficiently developed that they've created their new set of friends." The temptation: "There's this temptation to go back to the old patterns. The old ways of thinking." On why most people don't change: "How many people do you know that have lost 50 pounds? Or moved to a different country? Or have genuinely changed the way that they see the world? It's pretty rare. It's not that common." He continues: "We are such mimetic creatures. We're so shaped by the people around us that we can't help but be tempted. If you want to go from where you are to where you want to be... you're going to have to do something that makes you more different. More weird. More easy to be mocked." On the difference between movies and real life: "You look at it and you go... the Rocky montage was 3.5 minutes. For me it's been 5 years. Where's the championship ring? I haven't won the fight. Where's Apollo Creed? None of this stuff has happened." He explains: "In the movies, sure there's ups and downs. But the athlete's self-belief never wavers. He makes the decision and it's one straight shot. I don't think that's what the experience of personal growth is like at all." The reality: "In my experience... you're just swimming in uncertainty and fear and a lack of belief that it's even going to happen. You don't know if there's glory on the other side. I don't even know if this is going to be it. And I'm doing Sam Harris's meditation app. I'm journaling in the morning. I'm going to the gym. Does this even work? You're doing all this stuff... scrabbling like a guy in a well trying to find a handhold. And if you don't have a good community of people also doing that... you're on your own." On the rocket ship: "I think about personal growth kind of like a rocket ship taking off. As you take off, you've got a particular velocity. What you want is to find other people moving at the same velocity as you. But the quicker that you move... the fewer people are going to be like you." On having to do it again: "One of the difficult realizations for people who want to change their life... if you do it well, you might have to go through a period where you let go of all of your friends." The worse realization: "If you do it really well... you might have to do that multiple times throughout your life. You find a group of people. Finally. After that period where you were on your own. And then... oh shit, I'm still going. I've outgrown them. I've got to do it again? I just thought I'd found my group. And I've got to do it again." On why few people make big changes: "This lonely chapter thing is a big deal. I think it explains why so few people make big changes. The temptation is always going to be to just go back to what's normal. Go back to what I know." The value exchange: "When you get to the stage where you're faced with some personal growth decision... you're always going to have to make this value exchange: Do I want to move forward on my own? Or do I want to go back with my friends?"
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Chris Williamson explained to Joe Rogan what he calls "The Lonely Chapter." "The Rocky montage was 3.5 minutes. For me it's been 5 years." "Everybody that has gotten from a place where they don't want to be to one where they are... there's a point where they're so different that they can't resonate with their old set of friends. But they're not yet sufficiently developed that they've created their new set of friends." The temptation: "There's this temptation to go back to the old patterns. The old ways of thinking." On why most people don't change: "How many people do you know that have lost 50 pounds? Or moved to a different country? Or have genuinely changed the way that they see the world? It's pretty rare. It's not that common." He continues: "We are such mimetic creatures. We're so shaped by the people around us that we can't help but be tempted. If you want to go from where you are to where you want to be... you're going to have to do something that makes you more different. More weird. More easy to be mocked." On the difference between movies and real life: "You look at it and you go... the Rocky montage was 3.5 minutes. For me it's been 5 years. Where's the championship ring? I haven't won the fight. Where's Apollo Creed? None of this stuff has happened." He explains: "In the movies, sure there's ups and downs. But the athlete's self-belief never wavers. He makes the decision and it's one straight shot. I don't think that's what the experience of personal growth is like at all." The reality: "In my experience... you're just swimming in uncertainty and fear and a lack of belief that it's even going to happen. You don't know if there's glory on the other side. I don't even know if this is going to be it. And I'm doing Sam Harris's meditation app. I'm journaling in the morning. I'm going to the gym. Does this even work? You're doing all this stuff... scrabbling like a guy in a well trying to find a handhold. And if you don't have a good community of people also doing that... you're on your own." On the rocket ship: "I think about personal growth kind of like a rocket ship taking off. As you take off, you've got a particular velocity. What you want is to find other people moving at the same velocity as you. But the quicker that you move... the fewer people are going to be like you." On having to do it again: "One of the difficult realizations for people who want to change their life... if you do it well, you might have to go through a period where you let go of all of your friends." The worse realization: "If you do it really well... you might have to do that multiple times throughout your life. You find a group of people. Finally. After that period where you were on your own. And then... oh shit, I'm still going. I've outgrown them. I've got to do it again? I just thought I'd found my group. And I've got to do it again." On why few people make big changes: "This lonely chapter thing is a big deal. I think it explains why so few people make big changes. The temptation is always going to be to just go back to what's normal. Go back to what I know." The value exchange: "When you get to the stage where you're faced with some personal growth decision... you're always going to have to make this value exchange: Do I want to move forward on my own? Or do I want to go back with my friends?"

Jaynit

56,907 次观看 • 4 个月前

Chris Williamson shared one of the most overlooked truths about self-improvement. “If you want to go from where you are to where you want to be, you're going to have to do something that makes you more different, more weird, more easy to be mocked.” The hardest part isn't waking up early, going to the gym, or staying disciplined. It's surviving what he calls “the lonely chapter”: the period where you've outgrown your old life, but haven't yet built your new one. Chris: “You're so different that you can't resonate with your old set of friends. But you're not yet sufficiently developed that you've created your new set of friends.” Most people mistake this feeling for failure and go back to the habits, people, and routines they already know. Not because they're happier there, but because familiarity feels safer than uncertainty. Chris: “There is this temptation to go back to the old ways of thinking... to the road that you already know how it's going to end.” Movies make personal growth look like one inspiring montage. In reality, it's years of showing up without knowing if any of it will pay off. You're surrounded by uncertainty, questioning whether you're wasting your time, while everyone else seems content staying the same. That's why so few people truly change. The loneliness isn't a detour. It's part of the journey. If you can survive that chapter without turning back, you're already further ahead than most people ever get.
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Chris Williamson shared one of the most overlooked truths about self-improvement. “If you want to go from where you are to where you want to be, you're going to have to do something that makes you more different, more weird, more easy to be mocked.” The hardest part isn't waking up early, going to the gym, or staying disciplined. It's surviving what he calls “the lonely chapter”: the period where you've outgrown your old life, but haven't yet built your new one. Chris: “You're so different that you can't resonate with your old set of friends. But you're not yet sufficiently developed that you've created your new set of friends.” Most people mistake this feeling for failure and go back to the habits, people, and routines they already know. Not because they're happier there, but because familiarity feels safer than uncertainty. Chris: “There is this temptation to go back to the old ways of thinking... to the road that you already know how it's going to end.” Movies make personal growth look like one inspiring montage. In reality, it's years of showing up without knowing if any of it will pay off. You're surrounded by uncertainty, questioning whether you're wasting your time, while everyone else seems content staying the same. That's why so few people truly change. The loneliness isn't a detour. It's part of the journey. If you can survive that chapter without turning back, you're already further ahead than most people ever get.

gomi

108,612 次观看 • 1 个月前

Brad Stevens shares his non-negotiables for life. "I wanna enjoy who I'm working with. I wanna enjoy where I'm working. I wanna have a goal, but I also wanna enjoy the journey of getting to that goal." "For me, it starts with being a great teammate. That is something I look for in people. Those relationships are probably the most important thing." It starts with the people and the character of those people. Then he explained what it means to show up every day: "You put your signature on your work every day. You give it everything you have." "You do it for the good of the whole. You do it to get better at your own job. You do it to improve the whole and see where the chips may fall." It means giving your best effort and bringing a mindset of excellence to yourself and your team. "I've been lucky enough to be on really good teams. Teams that have had chances to play for things that are really, really special." Then he shared what stays with you: "Very rarely when you look back on those teams - whether at Butler or here - do you think about the individual games or even the moments of the games." "You think about the people and the individual times with the people." "That's the special part about being a part of a sports team. That's why you walk through the building every day." The relationships always stay. Stevens' wisdom is simple: it comes down to character. • Be a great teammate. • Strive for excellence. • Enjoy the people and the process. Character isn't what you say - it's what you do consistently. (🎥 Way of Champions)
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Brad Stevens shares his non-negotiables for life. "I wanna enjoy who I'm working with. I wanna enjoy where I'm working. I wanna have a goal, but I also wanna enjoy the journey of getting to that goal." "For me, it starts with being a great teammate. That is something I look for in people. Those relationships are probably the most important thing." It starts with the people and the character of those people. Then he explained what it means to show up every day: "You put your signature on your work every day. You give it everything you have." "You do it for the good of the whole. You do it to get better at your own job. You do it to improve the whole and see where the chips may fall." It means giving your best effort and bringing a mindset of excellence to yourself and your team. "I've been lucky enough to be on really good teams. Teams that have had chances to play for things that are really, really special." Then he shared what stays with you: "Very rarely when you look back on those teams - whether at Butler or here - do you think about the individual games or even the moments of the games." "You think about the people and the individual times with the people." "That's the special part about being a part of a sports team. That's why you walk through the building every day." The relationships always stay. Stevens' wisdom is simple: it comes down to character. • Be a great teammate. • Strive for excellence. • Enjoy the people and the process. Character isn't what you say - it's what you do consistently. (🎥 Way of Champions)

Coach AJ 🎯 Mental Fitness

321,373 次观看 • 4 个月前

Knowing your nature is critically important to understanding what success is for you. I can't tell you literally what is best for you, but I can tell you that success is not having a lot more money or status than you need. Having the time and freedom to do what you most want to do is far more important. What is success for most people? It is a matter of having meaningful work and meaningful relationships. If you can make your work and your passion one and the same, and do it with people who you care about and care about you, you will have a happy, successful life. Explore Principles for the Graduating Class of 2026 with my AI Twin, Digital Ray in Beta, here:
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Knowing your nature is critically important to understanding what success is for you. I can't tell you literally what is best for you, but I can tell you that success is not having a lot more money or status than you need. Having the time and freedom to do what you most want to do is far more important. What is success for most people? It is a matter of having meaningful work and meaningful relationships. If you can make your work and your passion one and the same, and do it with people who you care about and care about you, you will have a happy, successful life. Explore Principles for the Graduating Class of 2026 with my AI Twin, Digital Ray in Beta, here:

Ray Dalio

99,356 次观看 • 3 个月前

NAVAL: OBSERVE YOUR OWN MIND AND LIVE BY WHAT YOU TRULY WANT Forget vision boards and dopamine hacks - Naval says real growth starts with watching your own damn mind. No judgment, no pretending - just noticing the loops you're stuck in. He says "letting go" isn’t the holy grail. Sometimes the move is not detachment - it’s grabbing life by the throat and doing what you actually want: “I don't wanna tell anybody how to live their life. I would just say that to the extent that you want to improve your quality of life, the easiest and best way to do that is to observe your own mind and your own thoughts and be a little, not necessarily critical, but be observant of yourself more objectively. You're gonna find a lot of fulfillment outta life by just doing what you want to do and genuinely exploring what it is that you want, rather than doing what other people expect you to do or society expects you to do, or what you might just think should be done by default.” Source: Chris Williamson Naval
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NAVAL: OBSERVE YOUR OWN MIND AND LIVE BY WHAT YOU TRULY WANT Forget vision boards and dopamine hacks - Naval says real growth starts with watching your own damn mind. No judgment, no pretending - just noticing the loops you're stuck in. He says "letting go" isn’t the holy grail. Sometimes the move is not detachment - it’s grabbing life by the throat and doing what you actually want: “I don't wanna tell anybody how to live their life. I would just say that to the extent that you want to improve your quality of life, the easiest and best way to do that is to observe your own mind and your own thoughts and be a little, not necessarily critical, but be observant of yourself more objectively. You're gonna find a lot of fulfillment outta life by just doing what you want to do and genuinely exploring what it is that you want, rather than doing what other people expect you to do or society expects you to do, or what you might just think should be done by default.” Source: Chris Williamson Naval

Mario Nawfal

109,610 次观看 • 9 个月前

Chris Paul says one of the most misunderstood parts of leadership is asking people for input, even when you already know what you want to do: “Leadership is understanding when you’ve got to delegate. People don’t understand this part when it comes to leadership.” “Sometimes you’ve got to ask people for their input… Even if you really don’t want it.” “Leadership is about consensus building. Getting a group to all get behind one certain idea. You can’t do that from a pure position of dictatorship.” “You still need to go ask. People feel totally different when they feel like they’ve had some input on what’s taking place.” “They might agree with you that it’s A. A few might say B. A few might say C.” “If you can learn to collaborate… Let people feel like they’re part of the decision being made… They will embrace it totally different. And really, really go for it.”
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Chris Paul says one of the most misunderstood parts of leadership is asking people for input, even when you already know what you want to do: “Leadership is understanding when you’ve got to delegate. People don’t understand this part when it comes to leadership.” “Sometimes you’ve got to ask people for their input… Even if you really don’t want it.” “Leadership is about consensus building. Getting a group to all get behind one certain idea. You can’t do that from a pure position of dictatorship.” “You still need to go ask. People feel totally different when they feel like they’ve had some input on what’s taking place.” “They might agree with you that it’s A. A few might say B. A few might say C.” “If you can learn to collaborate… Let people feel like they’re part of the decision being made… They will embrace it totally different. And really, really go for it.”

Josh Chambers

35,654 次观看 • 1 个月前

Emily Blunt on the relationship that taught her the most about who she is: "Sorry, John Krasinski, but it is our children because you do go through this complete awakening when you have kids. I know any parent will attest to the challenge of it, the beauty of it, that sort of reclamation of maybe who you really are. I don't think anybody sees you as purely as your children do or brings you back to earth like they do. So I find that to be the most kaleidoscopic experience of my life."
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Emily Blunt on the relationship that taught her the most about who she is: "Sorry, John Krasinski, but it is our children because you do go through this complete awakening when you have kids. I know any parent will attest to the challenge of it, the beauty of it, that sort of reclamation of maybe who you really are. I don't think anybody sees you as purely as your children do or brings you back to earth like they do. So I find that to be the most kaleidoscopic experience of my life."

Emily Blunt Files

824,799 次观看 • 3 个月前

"We're naturally drawn to people who are extremely authentic." Ivanka Trump on authenticity and how to create a life that's tailor-made for you: "Dana White is a great example of somebody who knows himself so well. He's authentically who he is. He would be wildly uncomfortable wearing a mask and performing in some other role. I think Rick Rubin [is too]. Dolly Parton. I love her. She is who she is and she's always been the same and she really owns it." "We're naturally drawn to people who are extremely authentic." "You can't outsource decision-making for major decisions in your personal or professional life." "You have to do the work of really getting to know yourself and what feels right." "When decisions —regardless of how hard they are —align with your values it always feels good. It can be difficult but you never question it. You never second-guess. You don't look back and wonder what if. It's the decisions you take that don't fully feel right, that don't align with your true self, that don't align with those core values that you hold, those are the things that I think you always regret." "So many people are really afraid to be themselves. The reality is you're going to get criticized either way. You might as well be the best version of you possible."
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"We're naturally drawn to people who are extremely authentic." Ivanka Trump on authenticity and how to create a life that's tailor-made for you: "Dana White is a great example of somebody who knows himself so well. He's authentically who he is. He would be wildly uncomfortable wearing a mask and performing in some other role. I think Rick Rubin [is too]. Dolly Parton. I love her. She is who she is and she's always been the same and she really owns it." "We're naturally drawn to people who are extremely authentic." "You can't outsource decision-making for major decisions in your personal or professional life." "You have to do the work of really getting to know yourself and what feels right." "When decisions —regardless of how hard they are —align with your values it always feels good. It can be difficult but you never question it. You never second-guess. You don't look back and wonder what if. It's the decisions you take that don't fully feel right, that don't align with your true self, that don't align with those core values that you hold, those are the things that I think you always regret." "So many people are really afraid to be themselves. The reality is you're going to get criticized either way. You might as well be the best version of you possible."

David Senra

435,612 次观看 • 3 个月前

Not centering your life around work is hard but possible. Loved this from Cormac McCarthy: "I always knew that I didn't wanna work." Oprah: "How did you manage that? Most people would like to do that." "Well, you have to be dedicated. Yeah. But it was, it was my number one priority. And, uh, that you didn't wanna have a nine-to-five job. Yeah. I thought you, you're just here once. Life is brief and to have to spend every day of it doing what somebody else wants you to do is not the way to live it." "And I don't have any advice for anybody on how to go about that. Except if you, if you are really dedicated, you can probably do it. Oprah: "So you have worked at not working." "Absolutely. It's, yeah, it's number one priority."
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Not centering your life around work is hard but possible. Loved this from Cormac McCarthy: "I always knew that I didn't wanna work." Oprah: "How did you manage that? Most people would like to do that." "Well, you have to be dedicated. Yeah. But it was, it was my number one priority. And, uh, that you didn't wanna have a nine-to-five job. Yeah. I thought you, you're just here once. Life is brief and to have to spend every day of it doing what somebody else wants you to do is not the way to live it." "And I don't have any advice for anybody on how to go about that. Except if you, if you are really dedicated, you can probably do it. Oprah: "So you have worked at not working." "Absolutely. It's, yeah, it's number one priority."

Paul Millerd

80,575 次观看 • 3 年前

Whoever wants it more wins. Lulu Cheng Meservey on why every founder needs a manifesto: “The purpose of a manifesto is to make concrete your intensity. To paint for people a vision of what the world could be.” “Once you see a good manifesto you can't get it out of your head. You have to go do it.” “The manifesto is the magnet. If you don't have that, you have no right to go up to someone and say ‘Leave your comfortable job and leave your beautiful family and come with me on what is probably a death mission.’” “There's no amount of money or incumbency that can overcome somebody who wants it so much more.”
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Whoever wants it more wins. Lulu Cheng Meservey on why every founder needs a manifesto: “The purpose of a manifesto is to make concrete your intensity. To paint for people a vision of what the world could be.” “Once you see a good manifesto you can't get it out of your head. You have to go do it.” “The manifesto is the magnet. If you don't have that, you have no right to go up to someone and say ‘Leave your comfortable job and leave your beautiful family and come with me on what is probably a death mission.’” “There's no amount of money or incumbency that can overcome somebody who wants it so much more.”

David Senra

91,198 次观看 • 29 天前

The climber in this epic video is Amity Warme. You’ll never meet someone who is more dedicated to their craft—or more accomplished in it. The scrap of paper pictured below is pinned up in the van she calls home: “Do my choices support my goals?” Folks, it really is that simple. You can read self-help books, listen to podcasts, hire coaches, and attend masterminds… or you can just: 1. Clearly define the life you want. 2. Do things that move you closer to that life. 3. Don’t do things that move you further from it. You don’t need to be perfectly disciplined, you just need to do take more steps forward than back. It seems so simple and obvious, and yet most people… —Aren’t clear about what they really want —Pretend they don’t know what they need to do —Sabotage their life every day with their actions —Blame external forces for their lack of progress Life begins the day you accept the inconvenient truth that you’re in the driver’s seat. You steer your life through the dozens of small choices you make every day. “Do my choices support my goals?” Pin it to your bathroom mirror and try this for 90 days: Define one specific goal *in writing*. Deliberately do things that move you toward it. Don’t do things that move you further from it. That’s your self-help book in one post.
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The climber in this epic video is Amity Warme. You’ll never meet someone who is more dedicated to their craft—or more accomplished in it. The scrap of paper pictured below is pinned up in the van she calls home: “Do my choices support my goals?” Folks, it really is that simple. You can read self-help books, listen to podcasts, hire coaches, and attend masterminds… or you can just: 1. Clearly define the life you want. 2. Do things that move you closer to that life. 3. Don’t do things that move you further from it. You don’t need to be perfectly disciplined, you just need to do take more steps forward than back. It seems so simple and obvious, and yet most people… —Aren’t clear about what they really want —Pretend they don’t know what they need to do —Sabotage their life every day with their actions —Blame external forces for their lack of progress Life begins the day you accept the inconvenient truth that you’re in the driver’s seat. You steer your life through the dozens of small choices you make every day. “Do my choices support my goals?” Pin it to your bathroom mirror and try this for 90 days: Define one specific goal *in writing*. Deliberately do things that move you toward it. Don’t do things that move you further from it. That’s your self-help book in one post.

Kevin Dahlstrom

66,184 次观看 • 8 个月前

Chris Camillo explains why you should stop trading after a big win “You’re not as smart as you think you are. You are about to make the worst trade of your life” “If history repeats itself, almost every time I’ve knocked it out of the park, I have then gone on to do something so stupid because I get so overconfident” “I’m so cash flush that I am not as regimented with my process and that is the trap” “Do less after your big wins. You’d be better off taking part of that money and actually doing something fun with your family, your friends” “You’d be better off buying something rather than just making a dumb trading move because that’s what you’re likely to do”
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Chris Camillo explains why you should stop trading after a big win “You’re not as smart as you think you are. You are about to make the worst trade of your life” “If history repeats itself, almost every time I’ve knocked it out of the park, I have then gone on to do something so stupid because I get so overconfident” “I’m so cash flush that I am not as regimented with my process and that is the trap” “Do less after your big wins. You’d be better off taking part of that money and actually doing something fun with your family, your friends” “You’d be better off buying something rather than just making a dumb trading move because that’s what you’re likely to do”

Jack

71,650 次观看 • 4 个月前

Joe Mazzulla says his goal as Celtics coach is to be forgotten “If the people around you didn’t do what they do… I wouldn’t do anything. The thing I reflect on the most is… I think you have to be willing to be forgotten. I think that’s kind of my main goal.” “I want to be forgotten about. Because that means after you… It was better. I think that’s what it means to be a Celtic. However long you play, coach, work for the Celtics…” “Your job is to keep it exactly where it’s at or bring it better. You cannot bring it down. If you leave and it gets worse, that’s your fault. If you leave and they win, and they forgot about you, you did your job.” “I talk about that every day with the staff. Our job is to one day be forgotten about because you did your job. It became about something bigger than you.” “It’s a burden and a love for being with the Celtics… But it’s a responsibility. I think we could take that into our daily life. Can I leave it so much better that they don’t remember me because the next person came and was better?”
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Joe Mazzulla says his goal as Celtics coach is to be forgotten “If the people around you didn’t do what they do… I wouldn’t do anything. The thing I reflect on the most is… I think you have to be willing to be forgotten. I think that’s kind of my main goal.” “I want to be forgotten about. Because that means after you… It was better. I think that’s what it means to be a Celtic. However long you play, coach, work for the Celtics…” “Your job is to keep it exactly where it’s at or bring it better. You cannot bring it down. If you leave and it gets worse, that’s your fault. If you leave and they win, and they forgot about you, you did your job.” “I talk about that every day with the staff. Our job is to one day be forgotten about because you did your job. It became about something bigger than you.” “It’s a burden and a love for being with the Celtics… But it’s a responsibility. I think we could take that into our daily life. Can I leave it so much better that they don’t remember me because the next person came and was better?”

Josh Chambers

136,872 次观看 • 15 天前

Jordan Peterson explains how your life is the sum of what you repeat every day. people think cleaning their room is trivial. it isn’t. set your room up so that when you walk into it, it tells you to be better than you generally are. everything has its place. everything points you in the right direction. when you start improving one small part of your life, don’t be surprised if people around you resist it. sometimes they’ll ask, ‘who do you think you are?’ simply trying to become better can expose everyone else’s excuses. maybe all you have is a small room in a rundown place. fix it anyway. there’s more potential there than you think. you’ll discipline yourself by fixing the room. then you’ll have a better room and you’ll be a better person. the things people dismiss as ‘mundane’ are actually the biggest part of their lives. your life isn’t vacations or highlights. your life is how you greet your family every day. it’s breakfast together. it’s how you end the day. it’s the habits you repeat thousands of times. get those ordinary things right and you’ve already put most of your life together. these little things aren’t little. they create a ripple effect that changes far more than people imagine.
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Jordan Peterson explains how your life is the sum of what you repeat every day. people think cleaning their room is trivial. it isn’t. set your room up so that when you walk into it, it tells you to be better than you generally are. everything has its place. everything points you in the right direction. when you start improving one small part of your life, don’t be surprised if people around you resist it. sometimes they’ll ask, ‘who do you think you are?’ simply trying to become better can expose everyone else’s excuses. maybe all you have is a small room in a rundown place. fix it anyway. there’s more potential there than you think. you’ll discipline yourself by fixing the room. then you’ll have a better room and you’ll be a better person. the things people dismiss as ‘mundane’ are actually the biggest part of their lives. your life isn’t vacations or highlights. your life is how you greet your family every day. it’s breakfast together. it’s how you end the day. it’s the habits you repeat thousands of times. get those ordinary things right and you’ve already put most of your life together. these little things aren’t little. they create a ripple effect that changes far more than people imagine.

gomi

81,218 次观看 • 1 个月前

Jordan Peterson: "If you're competent and silent you will be ignored." "You might think well people should reward you because you're competent. And yes of course they should. But if you're competent and silent then you're just part of the background that's keeping everything functioning" On why you cannot negotiate from a position of weakness: "If you want to push your career forward you have to push it forward. You have to be competent and you have to be strategic" "To be strategic when you negotiate for a new position or a new salary you have to be able to say if you don't give me what I want then something you don't like will happen to you" "It's not a physical threat. It's that you have an option" "You have your CV in order. You're educated and competent and desirable to people outside of your immediate job. You're willing to instantly put yourself on the job market" "So that when you go talk to the person you're negotiating with you're credible" On the one thing most people completely miss about negotiation: "It's very seldom that you're talking to the person who's at the top of the pecking order. What you need to do is tell them a story that they can tell to their boss to make you not a problem" "A good story is look we really need this person because they're hyper competent and they have a better offer" "If you go in there with no power you're going to lose. Obviously" He concludes with the one thing every competent person needs to hear: "The first thing you need to know if you're going to negotiate is that you have to be able to say no. And what no means is that you're not going to do it"
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Jordan Peterson: "If you're competent and silent you will be ignored." "You might think well people should reward you because you're competent. And yes of course they should. But if you're competent and silent then you're just part of the background that's keeping everything functioning" On why you cannot negotiate from a position of weakness: "If you want to push your career forward you have to push it forward. You have to be competent and you have to be strategic" "To be strategic when you negotiate for a new position or a new salary you have to be able to say if you don't give me what I want then something you don't like will happen to you" "It's not a physical threat. It's that you have an option" "You have your CV in order. You're educated and competent and desirable to people outside of your immediate job. You're willing to instantly put yourself on the job market" "So that when you go talk to the person you're negotiating with you're credible" On the one thing most people completely miss about negotiation: "It's very seldom that you're talking to the person who's at the top of the pecking order. What you need to do is tell them a story that they can tell to their boss to make you not a problem" "A good story is look we really need this person because they're hyper competent and they have a better offer" "If you go in there with no power you're going to lose. Obviously" He concludes with the one thing every competent person needs to hear: "The first thing you need to know if you're going to negotiate is that you have to be able to say no. And what no means is that you're not going to do it"

Brad

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Steve Jobs on why everything around you was made by people no smarter than you: "When you grow up, you tend to get told that the world is the way it is and your life is just to live your life inside the world. Try not to bash into the walls too much, have a nice family life, have fun, save a little money. But that's a very limited life." Steve believed most people live with a fundamental misconception. As he puts it: "Life can be much broader once you discover one simple fact. And that is—everything around you that you call life was made up by people that were no smarter than you." He continues: "And you can change it. You can influence it. You can build your own things that other people can use. And the minute that you understand that you can poke life and actually something will pop out the other side—that you can change it, you can mold it." On what matters most: "Maybe the most important thing is to shake off this erroneous notion that life is there and you're just going to live in it versus embrace it, change it, improve it, make your mark upon it. I think that's very important." His perspective on why you should change things: "However you learn that, once you learn it, you'll want to change life and make it better because it's kind of messed up in a lot of ways." The shift: "Once you learn that, you'll never be the same again."
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Steve Jobs on why everything around you was made by people no smarter than you: "When you grow up, you tend to get told that the world is the way it is and your life is just to live your life inside the world. Try not to bash into the walls too much, have a nice family life, have fun, save a little money. But that's a very limited life." Steve believed most people live with a fundamental misconception. As he puts it: "Life can be much broader once you discover one simple fact. And that is—everything around you that you call life was made up by people that were no smarter than you." He continues: "And you can change it. You can influence it. You can build your own things that other people can use. And the minute that you understand that you can poke life and actually something will pop out the other side—that you can change it, you can mold it." On what matters most: "Maybe the most important thing is to shake off this erroneous notion that life is there and you're just going to live in it versus embrace it, change it, improve it, make your mark upon it. I think that's very important." His perspective on why you should change things: "However you learn that, once you learn it, you'll want to change life and make it better because it's kind of messed up in a lot of ways." The shift: "Once you learn that, you'll never be the same again."

Jaynit

48,518 次观看 • 7 个月前