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Chris Williamson dropped a hard truth on Joe Rogan: If you actually change your life for the better, you might have to let go of your friends. And if you keep growing… you’ll probably have to do it multiple times. You finally find your people after the lonely phase, then realize you’ve outgrown them too. That repeated loneliness is exactly why most people stay stuck — the comfort of old friends is a powerful anchor. Real growth isn’t just about discipline or goals. It’s often about relationships. The circle around you either lifts you or holds you back. This one stings because I’ve lived it. Those seasons of walking away are painful, but staying the same is worse. Have you ever had to leave behind a friend group because you were growing in a different direction?
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Chris Williamson dropped a hard truth on Joe Rogan: If you actually change your life for the better, you might have to let go of your friends. And if you keep growing… you’ll probably have to do it multiple times. You finally find your people after the lonely phase, then realize you’ve outgrown them too. That repeated loneliness is exactly why most people stay stuck — the comfort of old friends is a powerful anchor. Real growth isn’t just about discipline or goals. It’s often about relationships. The circle around you either lifts you or holds you back. This one stings because I’ve lived it. Those seasons of walking away are painful, but staying the same is worse. Have you ever had to leave behind a friend group because you were growing in a different direction?

Camus

392,334 views • 2 months ago

Chris Williamson explained to Joe Rogan what he calls "The Lonely Chapter." "The Rocky montage was 3.5 minutes. For me it's been 5 years." "Everybody that has gotten from a place where they don't want to be to one where they are... there's a point where they're so different that they can't resonate with their old set of friends. But they're not yet sufficiently developed that they've created their new set of friends." The temptation: "There's this temptation to go back to the old patterns. The old ways of thinking." On why most people don't change: "How many people do you know that have lost 50 pounds? Or moved to a different country? Or have genuinely changed the way that they see the world? It's pretty rare. It's not that common." He continues: "We are such mimetic creatures. We're so shaped by the people around us that we can't help but be tempted. If you want to go from where you are to where you want to be... you're going to have to do something that makes you more different. More weird. More easy to be mocked." On the difference between movies and real life: "You look at it and you go... the Rocky montage was 3.5 minutes. For me it's been 5 years. Where's the championship ring? I haven't won the fight. Where's Apollo Creed? None of this stuff has happened." He explains: "In the movies, sure there's ups and downs. But the athlete's self-belief never wavers. He makes the decision and it's one straight shot. I don't think that's what the experience of personal growth is like at all." The reality: "In my experience... you're just swimming in uncertainty and fear and a lack of belief that it's even going to happen. You don't know if there's glory on the other side. I don't even know if this is going to be it. And I'm doing Sam Harris's meditation app. I'm journaling in the morning. I'm going to the gym. Does this even work? You're doing all this stuff... scrabbling like a guy in a well trying to find a handhold. And if you don't have a good community of people also doing that... you're on your own." On the rocket ship: "I think about personal growth kind of like a rocket ship taking off. As you take off, you've got a particular velocity. What you want is to find other people moving at the same velocity as you. But the quicker that you move... the fewer people are going to be like you." On having to do it again: "One of the difficult realizations for people who want to change their life... if you do it well, you might have to go through a period where you let go of all of your friends." The worse realization: "If you do it really well... you might have to do that multiple times throughout your life. You find a group of people. Finally. After that period where you were on your own. And then... oh shit, I'm still going. I've outgrown them. I've got to do it again? I just thought I'd found my group. And I've got to do it again." On why few people make big changes: "This lonely chapter thing is a big deal. I think it explains why so few people make big changes. The temptation is always going to be to just go back to what's normal. Go back to what I know." The value exchange: "When you get to the stage where you're faced with some personal growth decision... you're always going to have to make this value exchange: Do I want to move forward on my own? Or do I want to go back with my friends?"
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Chris Williamson explained to Joe Rogan what he calls "The Lonely Chapter." "The Rocky montage was 3.5 minutes. For me it's been 5 years." "Everybody that has gotten from a place where they don't want to be to one where they are... there's a point where they're so different that they can't resonate with their old set of friends. But they're not yet sufficiently developed that they've created their new set of friends." The temptation: "There's this temptation to go back to the old patterns. The old ways of thinking." On why most people don't change: "How many people do you know that have lost 50 pounds? Or moved to a different country? Or have genuinely changed the way that they see the world? It's pretty rare. It's not that common." He continues: "We are such mimetic creatures. We're so shaped by the people around us that we can't help but be tempted. If you want to go from where you are to where you want to be... you're going to have to do something that makes you more different. More weird. More easy to be mocked." On the difference between movies and real life: "You look at it and you go... the Rocky montage was 3.5 minutes. For me it's been 5 years. Where's the championship ring? I haven't won the fight. Where's Apollo Creed? None of this stuff has happened." He explains: "In the movies, sure there's ups and downs. But the athlete's self-belief never wavers. He makes the decision and it's one straight shot. I don't think that's what the experience of personal growth is like at all." The reality: "In my experience... you're just swimming in uncertainty and fear and a lack of belief that it's even going to happen. You don't know if there's glory on the other side. I don't even know if this is going to be it. And I'm doing Sam Harris's meditation app. I'm journaling in the morning. I'm going to the gym. Does this even work? You're doing all this stuff... scrabbling like a guy in a well trying to find a handhold. And if you don't have a good community of people also doing that... you're on your own." On the rocket ship: "I think about personal growth kind of like a rocket ship taking off. As you take off, you've got a particular velocity. What you want is to find other people moving at the same velocity as you. But the quicker that you move... the fewer people are going to be like you." On having to do it again: "One of the difficult realizations for people who want to change their life... if you do it well, you might have to go through a period where you let go of all of your friends." The worse realization: "If you do it really well... you might have to do that multiple times throughout your life. You find a group of people. Finally. After that period where you were on your own. And then... oh shit, I'm still going. I've outgrown them. I've got to do it again? I just thought I'd found my group. And I've got to do it again." On why few people make big changes: "This lonely chapter thing is a big deal. I think it explains why so few people make big changes. The temptation is always going to be to just go back to what's normal. Go back to what I know." The value exchange: "When you get to the stage where you're faced with some personal growth decision... you're always going to have to make this value exchange: Do I want to move forward on my own? Or do I want to go back with my friends?"

Jaynit

56,701 views • 2 months ago

Knowing your nature is critically important to understanding what success is for you. I can't tell you literally what is best for you, but I can tell you that success is not having a lot more money or status than you need. Having the time and freedom to do what you most want to do is far more important. What is success for most people? It is a matter of having meaningful work and meaningful relationships. If you can make your work and your passion one and the same, and do it with people who you care about and care about you, you will have a happy, successful life. Explore Principles for the Graduating Class of 2026 with my AI Twin, Digital Ray in Beta, here:
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Knowing your nature is critically important to understanding what success is for you. I can't tell you literally what is best for you, but I can tell you that success is not having a lot more money or status than you need. Having the time and freedom to do what you most want to do is far more important. What is success for most people? It is a matter of having meaningful work and meaningful relationships. If you can make your work and your passion one and the same, and do it with people who you care about and care about you, you will have a happy, successful life. Explore Principles for the Graduating Class of 2026 with my AI Twin, Digital Ray in Beta, here:

Ray Dalio

98,907 views • 1 month ago

Brad Stevens shares his non-negotiables for life. "I wanna enjoy who I'm working with. I wanna enjoy where I'm working. I wanna have a goal, but I also wanna enjoy the journey of getting to that goal." "For me, it starts with being a great teammate. That is something I look for in people. Those relationships are probably the most important thing." It starts with the people and the character of those people. Then he explained what it means to show up every day: "You put your signature on your work every day. You give it everything you have." "You do it for the good of the whole. You do it to get better at your own job. You do it to improve the whole and see where the chips may fall." It means giving your best effort and bringing a mindset of excellence to yourself and your team. "I've been lucky enough to be on really good teams. Teams that have had chances to play for things that are really, really special." Then he shared what stays with you: "Very rarely when you look back on those teams - whether at Butler or here - do you think about the individual games or even the moments of the games." "You think about the people and the individual times with the people." "That's the special part about being a part of a sports team. That's why you walk through the building every day." The relationships always stay. Stevens' wisdom is simple: it comes down to character. • Be a great teammate. • Strive for excellence. • Enjoy the people and the process. Character isn't what you say - it's what you do consistently. (🎥 Way of Champions)
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Brad Stevens shares his non-negotiables for life. "I wanna enjoy who I'm working with. I wanna enjoy where I'm working. I wanna have a goal, but I also wanna enjoy the journey of getting to that goal." "For me, it starts with being a great teammate. That is something I look for in people. Those relationships are probably the most important thing." It starts with the people and the character of those people. Then he explained what it means to show up every day: "You put your signature on your work every day. You give it everything you have." "You do it for the good of the whole. You do it to get better at your own job. You do it to improve the whole and see where the chips may fall." It means giving your best effort and bringing a mindset of excellence to yourself and your team. "I've been lucky enough to be on really good teams. Teams that have had chances to play for things that are really, really special." Then he shared what stays with you: "Very rarely when you look back on those teams - whether at Butler or here - do you think about the individual games or even the moments of the games." "You think about the people and the individual times with the people." "That's the special part about being a part of a sports team. That's why you walk through the building every day." The relationships always stay. Stevens' wisdom is simple: it comes down to character. • Be a great teammate. • Strive for excellence. • Enjoy the people and the process. Character isn't what you say - it's what you do consistently. (🎥 Way of Champions)

Coach AJ 🎯 Mental Fitness

320,952 views • 2 months ago

NAVAL: OBSERVE YOUR OWN MIND AND LIVE BY WHAT YOU TRULY WANT Forget vision boards and dopamine hacks - Naval says real growth starts with watching your own damn mind. No judgment, no pretending - just noticing the loops you're stuck in. He says "letting go" isn’t the holy grail. Sometimes the move is not detachment - it’s grabbing life by the throat and doing what you actually want: “I don't wanna tell anybody how to live their life. I would just say that to the extent that you want to improve your quality of life, the easiest and best way to do that is to observe your own mind and your own thoughts and be a little, not necessarily critical, but be observant of yourself more objectively. You're gonna find a lot of fulfillment outta life by just doing what you want to do and genuinely exploring what it is that you want, rather than doing what other people expect you to do or society expects you to do, or what you might just think should be done by default.” Source: Chris Williamson Naval
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NAVAL: OBSERVE YOUR OWN MIND AND LIVE BY WHAT YOU TRULY WANT Forget vision boards and dopamine hacks - Naval says real growth starts with watching your own damn mind. No judgment, no pretending - just noticing the loops you're stuck in. He says "letting go" isn’t the holy grail. Sometimes the move is not detachment - it’s grabbing life by the throat and doing what you actually want: “I don't wanna tell anybody how to live their life. I would just say that to the extent that you want to improve your quality of life, the easiest and best way to do that is to observe your own mind and your own thoughts and be a little, not necessarily critical, but be observant of yourself more objectively. You're gonna find a lot of fulfillment outta life by just doing what you want to do and genuinely exploring what it is that you want, rather than doing what other people expect you to do or society expects you to do, or what you might just think should be done by default.” Source: Chris Williamson Naval

Mario Nawfal

109,508 views • 7 months ago

Emily Blunt on the relationship that taught her the most about who she is: "Sorry, John Krasinski, but it is our children because you do go through this complete awakening when you have kids. I know any parent will attest to the challenge of it, the beauty of it, that sort of reclamation of maybe who you really are. I don't think anybody sees you as purely as your children do or brings you back to earth like they do. So I find that to be the most kaleidoscopic experience of my life."
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Emily Blunt on the relationship that taught her the most about who she is: "Sorry, John Krasinski, but it is our children because you do go through this complete awakening when you have kids. I know any parent will attest to the challenge of it, the beauty of it, that sort of reclamation of maybe who you really are. I don't think anybody sees you as purely as your children do or brings you back to earth like they do. So I find that to be the most kaleidoscopic experience of my life."

Emily Blunt Files

824,112 views • 1 month ago

"We're naturally drawn to people who are extremely authentic." Ivanka Trump on authenticity and how to create a life that's tailor-made for you: "Dana White is a great example of somebody who knows himself so well. He's authentically who he is. He would be wildly uncomfortable wearing a mask and performing in some other role. I think Rick Rubin [is too]. Dolly Parton. I love her. She is who she is and she's always been the same and she really owns it." "We're naturally drawn to people who are extremely authentic." "You can't outsource decision-making for major decisions in your personal or professional life." "You have to do the work of really getting to know yourself and what feels right." "When decisions —regardless of how hard they are —align with your values it always feels good. It can be difficult but you never question it. You never second-guess. You don't look back and wonder what if. It's the decisions you take that don't fully feel right, that don't align with your true self, that don't align with those core values that you hold, those are the things that I think you always regret." "So many people are really afraid to be themselves. The reality is you're going to get criticized either way. You might as well be the best version of you possible."
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"We're naturally drawn to people who are extremely authentic." Ivanka Trump on authenticity and how to create a life that's tailor-made for you: "Dana White is a great example of somebody who knows himself so well. He's authentically who he is. He would be wildly uncomfortable wearing a mask and performing in some other role. I think Rick Rubin [is too]. Dolly Parton. I love her. She is who she is and she's always been the same and she really owns it." "We're naturally drawn to people who are extremely authentic." "You can't outsource decision-making for major decisions in your personal or professional life." "You have to do the work of really getting to know yourself and what feels right." "When decisions —regardless of how hard they are —align with your values it always feels good. It can be difficult but you never question it. You never second-guess. You don't look back and wonder what if. It's the decisions you take that don't fully feel right, that don't align with your true self, that don't align with those core values that you hold, those are the things that I think you always regret." "So many people are really afraid to be themselves. The reality is you're going to get criticized either way. You might as well be the best version of you possible."

David Senra

429,894 views • 1 month ago

Not centering your life around work is hard but possible. Loved this from Cormac McCarthy: "I always knew that I didn't wanna work." Oprah: "How did you manage that? Most people would like to do that." "Well, you have to be dedicated. Yeah. But it was, it was my number one priority. And, uh, that you didn't wanna have a nine-to-five job. Yeah. I thought you, you're just here once. Life is brief and to have to spend every day of it doing what somebody else wants you to do is not the way to live it." "And I don't have any advice for anybody on how to go about that. Except if you, if you are really dedicated, you can probably do it. Oprah: "So you have worked at not working." "Absolutely. It's, yeah, it's number one priority."
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Not centering your life around work is hard but possible. Loved this from Cormac McCarthy: "I always knew that I didn't wanna work." Oprah: "How did you manage that? Most people would like to do that." "Well, you have to be dedicated. Yeah. But it was, it was my number one priority. And, uh, that you didn't wanna have a nine-to-five job. Yeah. I thought you, you're just here once. Life is brief and to have to spend every day of it doing what somebody else wants you to do is not the way to live it." "And I don't have any advice for anybody on how to go about that. Except if you, if you are really dedicated, you can probably do it. Oprah: "So you have worked at not working." "Absolutely. It's, yeah, it's number one priority."

Paul Millerd

80,575 views • 3 years ago

The climber in this epic video is Amity Warme. You’ll never meet someone who is more dedicated to their craft—or more accomplished in it. The scrap of paper pictured below is pinned up in the van she calls home: “Do my choices support my goals?” Folks, it really is that simple. You can read self-help books, listen to podcasts, hire coaches, and attend masterminds… or you can just: 1. Clearly define the life you want. 2. Do things that move you closer to that life. 3. Don’t do things that move you further from it. You don’t need to be perfectly disciplined, you just need to do take more steps forward than back. It seems so simple and obvious, and yet most people… —Aren’t clear about what they really want —Pretend they don’t know what they need to do —Sabotage their life every day with their actions —Blame external forces for their lack of progress Life begins the day you accept the inconvenient truth that you’re in the driver’s seat. You steer your life through the dozens of small choices you make every day. “Do my choices support my goals?” Pin it to your bathroom mirror and try this for 90 days: Define one specific goal *in writing*. Deliberately do things that move you toward it. Don’t do things that move you further from it. That’s your self-help book in one post.
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The climber in this epic video is Amity Warme. You’ll never meet someone who is more dedicated to their craft—or more accomplished in it. The scrap of paper pictured below is pinned up in the van she calls home: “Do my choices support my goals?” Folks, it really is that simple. You can read self-help books, listen to podcasts, hire coaches, and attend masterminds… or you can just: 1. Clearly define the life you want. 2. Do things that move you closer to that life. 3. Don’t do things that move you further from it. You don’t need to be perfectly disciplined, you just need to do take more steps forward than back. It seems so simple and obvious, and yet most people… —Aren’t clear about what they really want —Pretend they don’t know what they need to do —Sabotage their life every day with their actions —Blame external forces for their lack of progress Life begins the day you accept the inconvenient truth that you’re in the driver’s seat. You steer your life through the dozens of small choices you make every day. “Do my choices support my goals?” Pin it to your bathroom mirror and try this for 90 days: Define one specific goal *in writing*. Deliberately do things that move you toward it. Don’t do things that move you further from it. That’s your self-help book in one post.

Kevin Dahlstrom

66,184 views • 6 months ago

Ben Horowitz on what makes the job of a startup CEO so difficult “The way to think about [the CEO job] is: You invent something the world may want, so you start a company. You hire every person you know who you think is good and respect. You raise money from people. You go sign up customers, and those customers depend on you to succeed. It’s a lot of pressure. But you don’t actually know what you’re doing. You’ve never been a CEO. You’ve never run a big organization.” Ben continues: “You know everyone’s depending on you. And all you do is work, so you don’t have any life outside of this, and your life is basically over if this company fails. And you don’t know [if your decisions] are the right thing to do — you only think it. And then you have people around you telling you, ‘No, it’s not the right thing to do.’ So how do you trust your eyes and trust what you think, then go do it? It’s a very difficult problem.” “This is where I see CEOs fail all the time,” Ben says. They think they know what the right thing to do is, but they don’t act on it. They hesitate because there’s “too much scary stuff” between you and making that decision (e.g. the pressure of it all, people telling you you’re wrong, etc.). Video source: a16z (2025)
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Ben Horowitz on what makes the job of a startup CEO so difficult “The way to think about [the CEO job] is: You invent something the world may want, so you start a company. You hire every person you know who you think is good and respect. You raise money from people. You go sign up customers, and those customers depend on you to succeed. It’s a lot of pressure. But you don’t actually know what you’re doing. You’ve never been a CEO. You’ve never run a big organization.” Ben continues: “You know everyone’s depending on you. And all you do is work, so you don’t have any life outside of this, and your life is basically over if this company fails. And you don’t know [if your decisions] are the right thing to do — you only think it. And then you have people around you telling you, ‘No, it’s not the right thing to do.’ So how do you trust your eyes and trust what you think, then go do it? It’s a very difficult problem.” “This is where I see CEOs fail all the time,” Ben says. They think they know what the right thing to do is, but they don’t act on it. They hesitate because there’s “too much scary stuff” between you and making that decision (e.g. the pressure of it all, people telling you you’re wrong, etc.). Video source: a16z (2025)

Startup Archive

44,950 views • 1 year ago

Chris Camillo explains why you should stop trading after a big win “You’re not as smart as you think you are. You are about to make the worst trade of your life” “If history repeats itself, almost every time I’ve knocked it out of the park, I have then gone on to do something so stupid because I get so overconfident” “I’m so cash flush that I am not as regimented with my process and that is the trap” “Do less after your big wins. You’d be better off taking part of that money and actually doing something fun with your family, your friends” “You’d be better off buying something rather than just making a dumb trading move because that’s what you’re likely to do”
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Chris Camillo explains why you should stop trading after a big win “You’re not as smart as you think you are. You are about to make the worst trade of your life” “If history repeats itself, almost every time I’ve knocked it out of the park, I have then gone on to do something so stupid because I get so overconfident” “I’m so cash flush that I am not as regimented with my process and that is the trap” “Do less after your big wins. You’d be better off taking part of that money and actually doing something fun with your family, your friends” “You’d be better off buying something rather than just making a dumb trading move because that’s what you’re likely to do”

Jack

71,544 views • 2 months ago

🐻: a [life] tip for someone turning 20? well… this is more of a lifelong tip than specifically for your 20s, but you have to life doing all the things you want! of course we can’t always be only doing the things that we want, but whenever possible, try turning the things you do into what you wanna do or doing the things that are actually aligned with what you like. i think it’d be good to fill in your life with the things you wanna do as much as possible 🐻: would life become more enjoyable once i turn 30? hmm, nope! [now that i think about it,] it wasn’t turning 30 that was important for me. i just happened to find my turning point and felt better in my 30s, but if it’s not the case for you, i think life turns more enjoyable the moment you make up your mind and determination. though it just sounds like a mere mindset difference, isn’t that the hardest part? it’s definitely not easy 🐻: “can you tell me that i’m doing well?”—you’re doing well! but i don’t think me telling you those words is what’s important because won’t it truly be more meaningful if it’s you who lives believing in your own self? i’ve also come to live that way now, though i know that’s something really hard to do… but still, i realised that’s the best way. making even a slight shift to our mindset’s so hard, isn’t it? 🐻: “what should i do if i don’t have confidence?”—keep doing it until you have that confidence or try your best to put aside all the reasons you’re unconfident. you’ll surely gain confidence that way, though of course, support from the people around you helps with confidence boost too. for example, i initially started believing that i might actually be better than how i viewed myself because my days believe in me, but in the long run, i have to be the one building my own confidence up. i think it’s most important that you recognise and validate your own self in the end! 🐻: “i’m afraid of the future”—you can be. i think i’ve said this before, but nothing changes even if we’re afraid. if you’re afraid of something that’s inevitably gonna happen, contemplating about it allows for good preemptive measures instead, but for all those minor worries? i think it’s better to take action after those things do happen, since i heard 90% of the things we worry about won’t actually happen. it’ll be okay, i believe
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🐻: a [life] tip for someone turning 20? well… this is more of a lifelong tip than specifically for your 20s, but you have to life doing all the things you want! of course we can’t always be only doing the things that we want, but whenever possible, try turning the things you do into what you wanna do or doing the things that are actually aligned with what you like. i think it’d be good to fill in your life with the things you wanna do as much as possible 🐻: would life become more enjoyable once i turn 30? hmm, nope! [now that i think about it,] it wasn’t turning 30 that was important for me. i just happened to find my turning point and felt better in my 30s, but if it’s not the case for you, i think life turns more enjoyable the moment you make up your mind and determination. though it just sounds like a mere mindset difference, isn’t that the hardest part? it’s definitely not easy 🐻: “can you tell me that i’m doing well?”—you’re doing well! but i don’t think me telling you those words is what’s important because won’t it truly be more meaningful if it’s you who lives believing in your own self? i’ve also come to live that way now, though i know that’s something really hard to do… but still, i realised that’s the best way. making even a slight shift to our mindset’s so hard, isn’t it? 🐻: “what should i do if i don’t have confidence?”—keep doing it until you have that confidence or try your best to put aside all the reasons you’re unconfident. you’ll surely gain confidence that way, though of course, support from the people around you helps with confidence boost too. for example, i initially started believing that i might actually be better than how i viewed myself because my days believe in me, but in the long run, i have to be the one building my own confidence up. i think it’s most important that you recognise and validate your own self in the end! 🐻: “i’m afraid of the future”—you can be. i think i’ve said this before, but nothing changes even if we’re afraid. if you’re afraid of something that’s inevitably gonna happen, contemplating about it allows for good preemptive measures instead, but for all those minor worries? i think it’s better to take action after those things do happen, since i heard 90% of the things we worry about won’t actually happen. it’ll be okay, i believe

𝙢𝙜𝙙𝙣𝙙𝙨

28,089 views • 1 year ago

An idea that I can't stop thinking about: The Capability Gap Alabama coach Nick Saban refers to the Capability Gap in this clip from a discussion with Holly Rowe: “We oftentimes talk about what someone’s potential is, but I think to put it in better terms...the Capability Gap is what you’re capable of relative to what you’re doing...if you understand the truth about that, you can actually take information that can help you close that gap.” The Capability Gap is a simple idea with powerful implications for every area of your life. It requires understanding two things: 1. Your full capability 2. Your current delivery In my experience, most people underestimate their full capability and overestimate their current delivery. In other words, they think their Capability Gap is small, when in reality, it’s much larger than they realize. That’s why having mentors, coaches, friends, and family who help you see the truth about your full capability and keep you honest about your current delivery is everything. This isn’t about sports. This is about life: Do you have people who help you think bigger about what you’re capable of? Do you have people who tell you when your current delivery isn’t good enough? We all need those people. The ones who push us to get uncomfortable, to stretch our thinking, and to raise our standards. We need people who help us become better partners, parents, friends, colleagues, and leaders. Find the people who tell you two truths: 1. What you’re truly capable of 2. What you’re currently delivering on Identify your Capability Gap and then work relentlessly to close it! If this resonated or taught you something, share it with others and follow Sahil Bloom for more.
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An idea that I can't stop thinking about: The Capability Gap Alabama coach Nick Saban refers to the Capability Gap in this clip from a discussion with Holly Rowe: “We oftentimes talk about what someone’s potential is, but I think to put it in better terms...the Capability Gap is what you’re capable of relative to what you’re doing...if you understand the truth about that, you can actually take information that can help you close that gap.” The Capability Gap is a simple idea with powerful implications for every area of your life. It requires understanding two things: 1. Your full capability 2. Your current delivery In my experience, most people underestimate their full capability and overestimate their current delivery. In other words, they think their Capability Gap is small, when in reality, it’s much larger than they realize. That’s why having mentors, coaches, friends, and family who help you see the truth about your full capability and keep you honest about your current delivery is everything. This isn’t about sports. This is about life: Do you have people who help you think bigger about what you’re capable of? Do you have people who tell you when your current delivery isn’t good enough? We all need those people. The ones who push us to get uncomfortable, to stretch our thinking, and to raise our standards. We need people who help us become better partners, parents, friends, colleagues, and leaders. Find the people who tell you two truths: 1. What you’re truly capable of 2. What you’re currently delivering on Identify your Capability Gap and then work relentlessly to close it! If this resonated or taught you something, share it with others and follow Sahil Bloom for more.

Sahil Bloom

260,206 views • 9 months ago

Your morning white pill from Jeremy Boreing is that to succeed, you must resist a victim mentality: “One of the great truths in life is that you cannot behave as a victim even if you are one- perhaps especially if you are one bc then it is actually reinforced by reality… One of the hardest things to do is to see yourself as a person with agency. It is the difference between the people who succeed in life and the people who don’t. It’s the difference between the people who are happy and the people who are not.”
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Your morning white pill from Jeremy Boreing is that to succeed, you must resist a victim mentality: “One of the great truths in life is that you cannot behave as a victim even if you are one- perhaps especially if you are one bc then it is actually reinforced by reality… One of the hardest things to do is to see yourself as a person with agency. It is the difference between the people who succeed in life and the people who don’t. It’s the difference between the people who are happy and the people who are not.”

Jackie Chea ⚖️

30,479 views • 3 months ago

Steve Jobs on why everything around you was made by people no smarter than you: "When you grow up, you tend to get told that the world is the way it is and your life is just to live your life inside the world. Try not to bash into the walls too much, have a nice family life, have fun, save a little money. But that's a very limited life." Steve believed most people live with a fundamental misconception. As he puts it: "Life can be much broader once you discover one simple fact. And that is—everything around you that you call life was made up by people that were no smarter than you." He continues: "And you can change it. You can influence it. You can build your own things that other people can use. And the minute that you understand that you can poke life and actually something will pop out the other side—that you can change it, you can mold it." On what matters most: "Maybe the most important thing is to shake off this erroneous notion that life is there and you're just going to live in it versus embrace it, change it, improve it, make your mark upon it. I think that's very important." His perspective on why you should change things: "However you learn that, once you learn it, you'll want to change life and make it better because it's kind of messed up in a lot of ways." The shift: "Once you learn that, you'll never be the same again."
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Steve Jobs on why everything around you was made by people no smarter than you: "When you grow up, you tend to get told that the world is the way it is and your life is just to live your life inside the world. Try not to bash into the walls too much, have a nice family life, have fun, save a little money. But that's a very limited life." Steve believed most people live with a fundamental misconception. As he puts it: "Life can be much broader once you discover one simple fact. And that is—everything around you that you call life was made up by people that were no smarter than you." He continues: "And you can change it. You can influence it. You can build your own things that other people can use. And the minute that you understand that you can poke life and actually something will pop out the other side—that you can change it, you can mold it." On what matters most: "Maybe the most important thing is to shake off this erroneous notion that life is there and you're just going to live in it versus embrace it, change it, improve it, make your mark upon it. I think that's very important." His perspective on why you should change things: "However you learn that, once you learn it, you'll want to change life and make it better because it's kind of messed up in a lot of ways." The shift: "Once you learn that, you'll never be the same again."

Jaynit

48,518 views • 6 months ago

Clint Eastwood on why other people's opinions don't matter: Clint is asked whether he worries more now, or less, about what other people think of him as a person. He says: "I don't really worry too much about that. People have to think what they think. You can't go out and sell some image to them. That would be false to begin with." He continues: "So you just go ahead and do your work and people will form an opinion about you, good, bad or otherwise. It's up to them. It's not anything you can control anyway. So why bother with it? Why worry about it?" Then he lays out the only standard worth measuring yourself against: "If you live your life and you try to do as well as you can for your community, and be helpful, and do the best work you can, be the best mate or parent you can, then that's the best you."
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Clint Eastwood on why other people's opinions don't matter: Clint is asked whether he worries more now, or less, about what other people think of him as a person. He says: "I don't really worry too much about that. People have to think what they think. You can't go out and sell some image to them. That would be false to begin with." He continues: "So you just go ahead and do your work and people will form an opinion about you, good, bad or otherwise. It's up to them. It's not anything you can control anyway. So why bother with it? Why worry about it?" Then he lays out the only standard worth measuring yourself against: "If you live your life and you try to do as well as you can for your community, and be helpful, and do the best work you can, be the best mate or parent you can, then that's the best you."

History Nerd

74,457 views • 14 days ago

. Naval: I don’t think you need to have a PhD to be a scientist. If you are naturally curious and you’re rigorous and you discover new things, you’re a scientist. One of my Twitter quips was, “The only true test of intelligence is if you get what you want out of life,” and that triggers a lot of people. But how else do you know? How else do you know if you’re smart? If you’re not getting what you want out of life, how smart are you really? You might have had bad luck once upon a time, but consistently, every time? I doubt it. And there’s two parts to that. One is actually testing yourself against the world to see if you get what you want. And the other is wanting the right things in the first place. You know, I wish I was 20 years old and had wings. Umm, not gonna happen. So you gotta wish for the right things too.
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. Naval: I don’t think you need to have a PhD to be a scientist. If you are naturally curious and you’re rigorous and you discover new things, you’re a scientist. One of my Twitter quips was, “The only true test of intelligence is if you get what you want out of life,” and that triggers a lot of people. But how else do you know? How else do you know if you’re smart? If you’re not getting what you want out of life, how smart are you really? You might have had bad luck once upon a time, but consistently, every time? I doubt it. And there’s two parts to that. One is actually testing yourself against the world to see if you get what you want. And the other is wanting the right things in the first place. You know, I wish I was 20 years old and had wings. Umm, not gonna happen. So you gotta wish for the right things too.

Arjun Khemani

186,455 views • 2 years ago

"You can either produce excellence or you can avoid criticism. But you cannot do both of those. The reason that you don't have certain excellence that you want is because you are afraid of getting criticized. You are afraid of the judgment that comes with it. You are afraid of standing out. You are afraid of being alone. You are afraid of people looking at you. You are worried about what people think of you. There are 2 categories of things in this world: 1) Things that are up to you 2) Things that are not up to you Which category does your reputation sit in? Your reputation is not up to you. I'm the one who associates your reputation with something, not you. You just do things. What's up to you? How you act. Your decisions. Your actions. That is up to you. Your reputation is not up to you. Here's how I know that: You all have a reputation about me and it's not in my control. I get to say and do whatever I say and do up here. I am in control of saying it. I am in control of doing it. The moment words leave my lips, who has control over what is done with those words? You! You are in control of what you think of me. And there's no way everybody in this room is going to think the exact same thing about me. No way. When it comes to exceptional, what we've got to understand is you can spend your whole life trying to avoid criticism and earn reputation, and it still won't be in your control. We can waste a lot of time missing out on excellence we could have been producing if we were just simply LESS trying to engineer what we wanted other people to think about us."
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"You can either produce excellence or you can avoid criticism. But you cannot do both of those. The reason that you don't have certain excellence that you want is because you are afraid of getting criticized. You are afraid of the judgment that comes with it. You are afraid of standing out. You are afraid of being alone. You are afraid of people looking at you. You are worried about what people think of you. There are 2 categories of things in this world: 1) Things that are up to you 2) Things that are not up to you Which category does your reputation sit in? Your reputation is not up to you. I'm the one who associates your reputation with something, not you. You just do things. What's up to you? How you act. Your decisions. Your actions. That is up to you. Your reputation is not up to you. Here's how I know that: You all have a reputation about me and it's not in my control. I get to say and do whatever I say and do up here. I am in control of saying it. I am in control of doing it. The moment words leave my lips, who has control over what is done with those words? You! You are in control of what you think of me. And there's no way everybody in this room is going to think the exact same thing about me. No way. When it comes to exceptional, what we've got to understand is you can spend your whole life trying to avoid criticism and earn reputation, and it still won't be in your control. We can waste a lot of time missing out on excellence we could have been producing if we were just simply LESS trying to engineer what we wanted other people to think about us."

Brian Kight

308,812 views • 1 year ago

"Allowing People to Diminish You is a Violent Act Against Yourself" Keke Palmer: Oprah, what is the single biggest mistake people make in their relationships with others? Oprah Winfrey: You are abusing yourself if you allow other people to be in your life to diminish you. You are punishing yourself it is a violent act against yourself to allow other people in your life to diminish you and not lift you and exalt you. Keke Palmer: Wow... that hits so deep. Oprah Winfrey: If you don't have people who see you for the light that you are, for the joy that you are, for the goodness that you bring... you are with the wrong people! I don't care how that shows up in your life. The reason that person keeps showing up in your life is for you to make the change. You can't change them. Keke Palmer: Absolutely. It’s like guiding yourself back to your own power rather than waiting for someone else to change. Oprah Winfrey: Exactly. You have had the power all along—you just have to remember it.
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"Allowing People to Diminish You is a Violent Act Against Yourself" Keke Palmer: Oprah, what is the single biggest mistake people make in their relationships with others? Oprah Winfrey: You are abusing yourself if you allow other people to be in your life to diminish you. You are punishing yourself it is a violent act against yourself to allow other people in your life to diminish you and not lift you and exalt you. Keke Palmer: Wow... that hits so deep. Oprah Winfrey: If you don't have people who see you for the light that you are, for the joy that you are, for the goodness that you bring... you are with the wrong people! I don't care how that shows up in your life. The reason that person keeps showing up in your life is for you to make the change. You can't change them. Keke Palmer: Absolutely. It’s like guiding yourself back to your own power rather than waiting for someone else to change. Oprah Winfrey: Exactly. You have had the power all along—you just have to remember it.

FlickHub

23,896 views • 2 days ago