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Dr. Gabor Maté nails it: Fear is wired to trigger a cry for help and connection. When that cry goes unheard—especially in childhood—it doesn't vanish. It burrows deep, detaching from any real threat and resurfacing as chronic anxiety: a quiet, constant dread of simply being alive. The outward plea... show more
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![Gabor Maté on emotional suppression: Your anger didn't disappear. You just learned to hide it even from yourself. Gabor Maté, one of the world's leading voices on trauma and the mind-body connection, has spent decades studying why people get sick. His answer is often not what people expect. It isn't just stress. It isn't just genetics. A major culprit, Maté argues, is something most of us were trained to do before we could even name it: suppressing our own emotions to stay connected to the people we love. He starts with a simple observation about what anger actually is: "When you're angry it's not just an emotional state in your head. Your whole body is now [in that state]." Anger is a full-body event. Energy surges through the nervous system. It wants to move. Now imagine the cost of stopping it before it even surfaces. The deal children are forced to make Maté points to a specific, critical moment in early childhood: when a child's natural anger meets a parent's disapproval. He references Jordan Peterson's parenting advice that an angry child should be separated from the family until they return to "normal" as an example of a message many children receive in various forms: "If you're angry you will not be accepted by us. In fact you'll be excluded… until you come back to quote unquote normal." For a young child, that is not a minor social correction. That is an existential threat. Attachment to a caregiver is survival. So the child makes the only logical trade available to them: "They give up their authenticity for the sake of the attachment." The anger doesn't go anywhere. It just gets pushed underground. So deep, eventually, that the person no longer feels it at all. The body keeps the cost Repressing an emotion, especially one as physiologically charged as anger is not a passive act. It takes constant, active effort from the nervous system and the immune system. "That emotional, physiological effort of repressing anger takes a toll on the nervous system and on the immune system. It's a major role in disease." The body is not fooled by the mind's decision not to feel. The energy has to go somewhere. And over years and over decades that somewhere is tissue, organs, inflammation. Maté isn't arguing that children should be allowed to rage unchecked, or that parents who enforce boundaries are doing harm. He's pointing at something more subtle: the difference between helping a child process difficult emotions and teaching them to disappear those emotions entirely. One builds emotional capacity. The other trades it away quietly, early, at a price that often doesn't come due until decades later. And the person paying rarely connects the bill to the original transaction.](https://image.24vids.com/tw-2045117680353698201/amplify_video_thumb/2045117627635531777/img/0pKBSv5Ot3-c6hTf.jpg)
![CBS’s Nathaniel E Burleson on combating anti-Semitism: “[W]hen any group is under attack, you are looking for government intervention, of course, and then also civilian allies. So, as we stand here right now, what can we do to help the Jewish people feel safer?” Tishby: “Thank you so much for actually asking us this question. This is such a beautiful thing and so important. So, listen, first of all, strong language against it. The second thing is strong actions against it. And to be honest, one of the most powerful things that anybody can do, any government, any organization, any group, any company, is adopt what is called the IHRA definition of antisemitism, the International Holocaust Alliance Definition of antisemitism is non- binding, nonlegal definition, the prism from which to see what antisemitism is because a lot of people don’t understand what it is. If you understand what it is as a company, as an organization, as a government, you can actually fight against it. We need to acknowledge, this threat is real, this threat is lethal. It is killing people and we have to stop it.” Burleson: “It is happening.” Tishby: “It has to stop.”](https://image.24vids.com/tw-2001060199071638002/amplify_video_thumb/2001060151097184257/img/H6x2PHDhJM_dD5HL.jpg)
